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Re: Cheating Wife + Two Kids
06/03/10 08:59 AM
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I guess what gets me is I never had that time time to "party" either and I dont think twice about it. We had children early and that is just the way the ball bounces. I cowboyed up and took care of buisness. I currently have worked my way up to a good job again (for my age). Its at a local medical practice as an IT Systems Analyst. It provides about 40k /yr, pension, 401k, profitsharing, educational benefits, paid certifications, etc. I dont think twice about not being able to get drunk.
I tried to consult a lawyer and (i guess) made the mistake of telling her about it. She claimed that I was making this nasty and she can take me for eveything I have. Now, I am not trying to be sexist here, but after talking to the lawyer it sounds as if she is right. I am a man...I LOOSE; even if I did not fault this marrage. I will have to call one again, you are right.
I am continuing my education, I plan on attending the University for my Graduate program (PhD)in the next two years. Currently I have a 3.8GPA. She is a SAHM however, let me assure you, I did not plan on keeping it that way. As soon as the children start school (another 3.5 years) I was going to encourage her to either A) get a job or B)go to school. Option B being the one of my choice.
I think she may eventually come back, either in 2 months or 2 years. Her boyfriend just got off probation for drug charges and I dont think he will provide the lifestyle she wants...she will get sick of living with her parents or in a trailer. But I dont want her back with me just for "money", I want her back for the right reasons; love. But she lied on her vows and I didnt have a clue till the day she told me. (I am clueless)
I just want my wife back, the woman I CHOOSE to spend the REST OF MY LIFE with. Not just because baby was in the oven. I wish I knew what was going on in her head.
BTW: No divorce papers have been filed, we are still completely married. This shows me she doesnt want to leave per se. It seems like she wants to party then come beg forgivness because she knows I am a sucker. But her actions, words and complete lack of concern for my kids and I have made it so I am not sure if I should take her back (if that day comes) I mean she threw me so far into the negitive that by the time I caught the account up I was two and a half months late on evey bill we had.
I just dont know...
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