I'm confused, isn't that what I said?
As to "presumptions".. same could be said of NY. There is no legal provision for move-aways, there is only case law. There is a "standard" move-away restriction in stipulated settlements. However, in the county I just left, 12 out of 14 judges will nearly ALWAYS grant a move request. 1 out of 14 is a 50/50 shot, and the last is nearly always a "No". Those statistics are from my attorney, who has handled inumerable move-aways in that county. They are, btw, the attorney of ANOTHER poster here. And if you looked at their postings on NY move-aways, and they are in the SAME county, same LAWYER, they'd tell you they are next to impossible to obtain. Obviously,that person never actually ASKED their attorney.
The reality is, in this day and age, that moves are not uncommon and are often necessary. I'm often surprised at the attitude here about them. Reality is, people need to move. People are going to move on with their lives. It happens. Don't want that to happen? It's very simple. Don't get divorced. I realize there are situations where it's DANGEROUS to stay married, but barring that? People should be staying married and working on their marriages, more than they are. Then they want the courts to enforce parenting 'rights', well, stay married. That enforces your right My 70 year old father, raised by a strict Baptist minister father, farm folk.. "gets" it. I actually figured he'd be very OPPOSED to my moving with dd, even if it was back home. Nope, just the opposite. It happens. With what I do, it's not uncommon to move around, a lot in fact. That's a reality. When you divorce, you see less of your kids, THAT is a reality. Always go back to ULTIMATE cause and effect. Don't want to lose time with your kids? Don't want them to move? DON'T GET DIVORCED. It's really that simple.
The best we can do is live our lives with enlightened improvisation.