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Husband threatened me from 'over there'...
10/02/10 12:27 PM
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Just a little background...Married 11 1/2 yrs.(4 1/2 yrs. hubby has been in Army). He is currently deployed due back early Nov 2010(so very soon). We have 2 daughters together(6 & 10). We've lived on base in GA for about 2 yrs. now. Our homestate is MD(both of us). To the point, our marriage is over...it's been heading to this for years. I need some major advice. I would like to be gone before he gets home because he is crazy verbally abusive with me in front of the kids. He scares me and them. He gets within an inch of my face and yells at the top of his lungs. In the almost year he's been gone, he has only called home 5 times...the last time was last night and to quote him he said 'When I get home things are going to change and if you want any money, you better get a fk'ng job' & then he hung up. This is maybe TMI...so I'll try to get to the point. I am a SAHM(since my hubby joined the Army & we had to move). I am also a student taking Early Childhood Education courses to become a preschool teacher. Now the point of this post...I want a divorce & I don't see my husband making this easy at all. He will not contest it, but I'm positive he will make everything about money things as difficult as humanly possible. Our daughters are coming with me. My husband will not argue this since he has barely been a father to them.(Where the children are concerned this is just beyond sad). I fear for when we move & if they will hear from their father. What I need to know is who do I speak to on-base to let them know I want to leave before he gets home because I fear what will happen when he gets here. I don't want to be charged with 'abondonment'. I will be going to MD to live with family when I leave GA. Do I file seperation in GA or can I do it in MD since MD is both of our homestate(taxes paid to MD & our driver's license's are MD). My husband joined the Army in MD. Once things go to court(I'm not really sure how it all will work) will he need to come to MD for court proceedings or will I have to go to GA where he'll continue to live. There is no way I can see being able to afford any kind of travel back to GA(10 hr. drive one-way). I don't work currently. I do intend to find work teaching once I move. When I move out, I cannot stay in GA...I have no one here. Once I file separation papers, how long will it take before I might see child support, alimony, BAH, etc.. In ref. to child support, I would like it to start from the day I move out, which is only right. I also don't want to be a burden to my family by me & 2 children having to live with them. A lot of what is going to happen once I move is going to depend on how fast some of these things will happen. Can anyone pls. help me on this? There is no way I can be here when he gets home & I've been threatened that he will cut off all money to me, which also means the children. I swear he doesn't see the children as part of him...he groups the girls and I together like he is a separate entity. Anyway...pls. help me quickly. Thank you for any advice you may have.
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