My fiance's parents & I have very different parenting styles. We've had arguments before, but things really blew up about a month ago in which we had a yelling match & fiance's mother slapped me so I slapped her back. Since this fight, which occured two days bfore my baby turned one, they didn't come to his party & they also told their whole family not to come as well, since they were steaming over this. I was also advised I was not welcome at their family getogethers as well & they were not speaking to me.
Now the issue with this as well is the fact that they still wanted to watch my son 2 days a week, which they do in my house, but they would only communicate with me by letter or email. (they wanted me to send mother in law an email apologizing regarding the incident). I said I will put nothing in writing about anything. I told my fiance that if his parents aren't talking to me, I don't feel comfortable with them wathing my son, & when I told this to my fiance's father via telephone, he told me If I don't let them see the baby, there will be "consequences." Now, I took that as a verbal threat. In addition to this, I also got a bill in the mail recently from my baby's pediatrician, which was for a date of service I didn't even go there. I then found out my fiance's parents went to my baby's dr behind my back, without my knowledge, & complained to the pediatrician they were concerned with my mother watching him, who watches my baby 3 days of the week week. It should be noted that in addition to watching my son, my mother also works a full time job caring for clients with disabilities, she does have bad knees & therefore she watches the baby mostly indoors. But she loves being w/ him & he is a happy & healthy baby. My fiance's parents on the other hand are extreme health freaks who believe he should be outside most of the day, whether in extreme heat or cold, they think he needs fresh air constantly, & they diregard my views as to what weather I want the baby outside in, thinking they know best. And this also stems from since the day my son was born they have been pushing for my fiance & I to put my baby in daycare, which I told them I don't want to do yet, for a number of different reasons & I am happy w/ my mom caring for our baby. My fiance's mother, who months ago had an argument with my mother, followed it up with a nasty letter to my mother which was very disresepctful, so my mother is not even on speaking terms with them.
As of recently, I am on limited speaking terms with fiance's parents, consisting of hi, bye, & what kind of day the baby had when they are watching him. They live several states away (a four hour drive), yet come down as I said ,2 days a week to watch the baby, the mother/father alternating weeks they watch him.
So, with them constantly undermining me as a mother, going behind my back, etc, I would like to limit the time they spend w/ my son. Does anyone know if it is possible for me to do this at all, what kind of rights do I have, if any to do this? Also, please give me your opinion of what you think is thier true motive for these actions against me, as in are they trying to take my baby possibly? I would appreciate your responce & advise.