We are now in the holiday season that is the most difficult for many of us. A few years back, when I needed it the most, this forum was quite active with many that were, or had been in situation similar, to mine. I was going through an unwanted divorce after a 30 year marriage. I did not find anyone local going through divorce from a long, long term marriage, but I found many here, back in the day with it was called the Recovery forum.
For those with the blues today, you are not alone, many are, or have been, where you are today. It has been 8 years since my Ex left. I still reflect on this day, on and other holidays, and miss those no longer part of my life. I think about years past and missed those that have died (and there are many, I will be 62 soon) and I also miss my Ex. I am content with my life, however he was part of it for 34 years, many of them good years. I came to realize I do not want the man he has become but I do miss who he once was.
Your life may seem in turmoil now and full of heartache, but we humans are resilient, we bounce back and you will too. The pain will lessen over time and you will make a new life for yourself. Perhaps not the one you had planned, but it can be a good life, even if you never find love again. It doesn't come easy and it takes time. For some of use it takes more time than others. There is no time schedule and do not allow anyone, including yourself, to put you on one. You can and will be happy again. One day you will sit back and think of this time and be glad it is history and thank yourself for getting through it.
I found this holiday season very emotionally difficult back then and found solace here, from my on line friends, during the holidays and for a long time. to those old friends, if you are still checking in to read, on this Thanksgiving I want to thank you for helping me when I needed it the most, I am forever grateful. For those few of you that I have email addresses for, I hope to write to you later this evening.
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened".