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finz
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Re: Duh...need to figure this out

12/07/10 08:00 AM

Mike,

I think it says A LOT about your's/your ex's determination to put the kids needs first and to be flexible enough to 'share' the holidays, even with your new SO's there. I think that's the way it always SHOULD be (except for with issues of sbuse, etc)

Sounds like your girlfriend has 2 issues SHE has to work out. One is spending some time with your ex on major functions. The second is understanding your holiday practices. Frankly, I think it's rather rude and presumptuous of her to say or imply you don't celebrate the holidays 'correctly'. If you were ever to have children with her, obviously she would have equal say in what you teach the kids, but in your situation, she has no right to the decision. I'd be insulted if someone told me that basically, they think I'm raising my kids wrong.

I think there can be more than one right person out there for each of us. Maybe she is a great person and if you had met her before your marriage, you could have had a nice life together. If she can't understand why you are handling the holidays the way you do, maybe she isn't the right person for you right now.

It sounds like you've been clear with her about the things that are important to you. This is one of those deal breakers.

Best of luck to you. I hope it all works out for the best.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Duh...need to figure this out	mikec73	12/02/10 12:53 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	KiwiGirl	12/09/10 02:48 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	BeachBabeRN	12/09/10 03:07 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	mikec73	12/09/10 08:25 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	mikec73	12/09/10 08:36 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	finz	12/09/10 09:22 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	mikec73	12/10/10 02:58 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	BeachBabeRN	12/10/10 08:00 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	english7	12/11/10 10:46 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	KiwiGirl	12/11/10 12:49 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	Debi	12/03/10 11:11 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	BeachBabeRN	12/04/10 07:05 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	mikec73	12/06/10 09:47 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	bmjmema	01/01/11 03:24 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	BeachBabeRN	12/07/10 08:04 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	DramaMama	12/07/10 10:27 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	Debi	12/12/10 07:17 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	finz	12/08/10 01:43 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	mikec73	12/08/10 09:13 PM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	Redlegg	12/08/10 07:41 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	finz	12/08/10 08:19 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	finz	12/07/10 08:00 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	bacall	12/02/10 08:55 AM
Re: Duh...need to figure this out	d2njti	12/02/10 11:49 AM

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