"Temporary alimony is intended to keep the separated parties on equal footing. That way each will still be able to eat and have shelter AND retain an attorney."
Well, you didn't GET alimony, and yet you appear to have survived, how did you do it?
"Do you think that a woman who fled domestic assault and has no job, clothes, furniture or a place to live is not in any way disadvantaged?"
Actually, in a divorce situation, no, she has the upper hand, because if she is really abused (and I say that because the "abuse" card is way over played, "He YELLED at me, I am ABUSED!") she will have police reports, she will get a space at a shelter, a free (or at worst, a very cheap) attorney, and the pity of the court (some deserved, some not).
YOU chose to move down there to be with him, YOU chose to quit your job, YOU chose to run away, yet somehow you feel that HE should PAY you an EXTREMELY high amount because4 you made those choices "for" him. Gee, a guy you didn't know very well had personality faults that you didn't know about...SHOCKER!
Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...