Where do I start?
"Well, you didn't GET alimony, and yet you appear to have survived, how did you do it?"
I "survived" by sleeping on someone's floor for one month, living in an abandoned crack house for 6-7 months (no furniture), and living in someone's attic for the month of August. Can you really say this is okay?
"Actually, in a divorce situation, no, she has the upper hand, because if she is really abused (and I say that because the "abuse" card is way over played, "He YELLED at me, I am ABUSED!") she will have police reports, she will get a space at a shelter, a free (or at worst, a very cheap) attorney, and the pity of the court (some deserved, some not)."
I have police reports. The shelter would not take me because I had a credit card. They said they had to "exhaust all other options first" before giving me shelter. Remember, he is an AF major. He has been protected. The magistrate let him go. All he had to do was say that I did not have marks on me. Then the magistrate told him not to kill the cats, as he'd threatened. The court in a military town is also going to side with "the military guy" according to my lawyer. I tried to get a free attorney. I qualified b/c of the assault, but she would not go after temporary support. The only thing she would do was dissolve the marriage. I agreed to that. Then in two weeks, she closed my case b/c it had not moved forward!!! I tried three other attorneys, all cheap, just to review the separation agreement he wanted me to sign. I paid what I could (no income), then they told me in order for them to do more, I had to pay more. So tell me how I had the upper hand!
Yeah, I chose to move to live with him. I chose to leave my job. I can tell you, I did not make that decision lightly. I made it according to all his promises. And, as I've told you before, I dated him for over 4 years. He was really good at presenting an alternate personality.
If the judge does award me back temporary spousal support, it will be justified.