"I told you...I dated him for 4 years. Memory problem?"
So you DID know him? So why would you move down there for an abuser? Oh, yeah, you didn't know he was an abuser...so, hence, you DIDN'T KNOW HIM.
"I did not know he was a control freak. But, hey, at least you can admit he was that. Progress."
So, when he wouldn't put your name on the bank accounts, give you any money, or made you sign over your checks, you thought he was WHAT?
"I did NOT allow him to do that. I did not."
Okay, you didn't allow it...read on.
"I told him if he did it again, I would seek help b/c I would not put up with that again."
Good for you, that shows strength.
"I told him I would call the police. I called the police. I left repeatedly."
Wait, if you would NOT put up with it again, how could you have left repeatedly? Wouldn't that mean you had to keep coming back?
"That didn't happen for long. As soon as I realized he did not have our best interests at heart, I stopped that."
So, until your epiphany, what DID you think TAKING your checks and putting them in an account you had NO access to was?
"There was only one assault that I called the police for. The two reports I mentioned were the police report and my report to the police."
So there was ONE police report (it is a document, not an action, I figured an english teacher would know that), and he did WHAT? Whatever it was, there was no marks, you have admitted that.
"Guess I explained that already. I had no one to help me in VA."
You had a credit card and a JOB. You are almost FIFTY, and you need HELP to survive?!?
"I did not dare live close to where he was."
Yeah, and Virginia is SUCH a small state.
"My job in VA was part time. I believed I could get a job in NY."
So you quit a SURE think, to travel to NY for an unknown? Again, you are almost FIFTY, and not only do you think this is okay, but you think this was the BEST decision you could have made at the time...
"Are you having fun with this?"
No, the more info you post, the more utterly DISGUSTED I am that you are even the same GENDER as one of my children. Playing the helpless little female who HAS to have help, WAH! You SICKEN me, and the strong women on this board who HAVE been faced with REAL adversary, and stood by it and survived in their own should be ready to tar and feather you for what you are doing to the image of their sex.
"I hope you don't advise your kids."
Well, MY kids wouldn't have let me sleep on the floor or live in a crack house. I hope YOU don't TEACH kids, especially girls.
Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...