You are SO full of it. Do you think NONE of us have EVER had crazy ex's?
"He came to my place of employment repeatedly, azzhole, looking for me, as I knew he would."
Okay, so a MILITARY OFFICER came to the SCHOOL you were teaching at, for NO reason, and you QUIT because of it? DUH!
"The police told me not to go there again."
The police told you not to go to your JOB, because your stbx was showing up? WTF is wrong with you, call the SHERIFF, if that fails, call the FBI. But, honestly, I don't believe for a second that the police told you not to go to your JOB, and continued to allow him to go about his business.
"So, you really think I should have stayed in the area, kept my job (part time) and just waited (as bait) for him to come looking for me, angry as h3ll b/c I had him arrested?"
Yep, and you call the cops EVERY TIME he shows up. Eventually, they WILL get tired of it happening, or then you go to the news with your evidence.
"I wanted to stop the fear and looking over my shoulder for him to come after me."
And you are SO afraid of him that you are EXTENDING the divorce proceedings to get an extra $50,000 out of him? You are claiming he STALKED you CONSTANTLY for having him ARRESTED, what do you think he will do if he has to hand you 50 grand?
Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...