"There were no other towns in Virginia ? None ? If I wanted a divorce ASAP, I wouldn't have moved out of state."
I did not want a divorce ASAP. Don't think I'm you. I was in a state of shock and just wanted to get away from him. I drove around the area for 2 or 3 days, hiding out in parking lots, staying in motels where I thought he wouldn't find me. Then I drove north to be safe with people I knew. I had to take time to think things over.
"You are saying the police refused to arrest him for violating the RO ?"
No, I'm not saying that. The magistrate refused the probable cause statement for the EPO that the police submitted. There was no RO, as I knew there wouldn't be. That's why I was prepared to flee. I knew he'd be coming back.
"You couldn't call Capital One before you left, when things were going downhill and get more credit which would also be based on his salary?"
I had no idea he was going to go so crazy. Besides, how smart is it to take on more credit than you can pay back? Maybe you would. I had two cards. I maxed them out.
"You couldn't have stayed in the house with new locks and an RO ? You're that positive he would jeapordize his whole military career by doing something like approaching the house or your job ?
The police let him back in the house. They escorted me to my car. And, yeah, he would come to the house and my job. Oh yeah he would. Why? Because he has no respect for the law and believes the military will protect him. That's exactly what happened. But, again, there was no RO to begin with.
"Did you not have a winter coat from your years of teaching in NY ? If you charged some more clothes, you could have gotten the free lawyer and a shelter, right ?"
My coat was in VA. I left with an overnight bag, toothbrush, pj's. I charged a lot to clothe myself and eat and travel to interviews. As long as I had a credit card, I could not stay in a shelter. I was able to get the free lawyer, after two months of phone calls and proof of the assault. She dropped my case after two weeks b/c it had not moved forward. She didn't do anything!