"But alas, I am sure she will pipe back in with some supersecret reason we don't know why a judge would change his mind."
Here it is, and I hope I don't have to keep repeating this. The judge never heard the pendente lite spousal support. He stayed it b/c my ex was deployed. He gave him one month to appear with his discovery. He provided that discovery in time, so back to court--but no ex. The judge again stayed it b/c he was deployed. They set a hearing for the final decree. I was not able to be there. The marriage was dissolved without my presence as a no-fault. The decree reads: "Further, it is ADJUDGED, ORDERED and DECREED as follows: 1. Defendant's Cross-Complaint is dismissed. 2. the issues of spousal support, equitable distribution and attorney's fees are reserved for determination at a later date."
"I realize he said he would "think about it" but that actually translates to "no. Unless some new info comes in because she hires an attorney who can present this properly and finds something she overlooked." But whatever. She knows all and we can't read."
We ran over, time-wise. We had one hour, but took much longer. The next group was waiting. There was too much for him to consider in the last 5 minutes he gave us to finish. No reason to be nasty with me. None whatsoever.
"Yeah I am trying to figure out what was 50k. Did she personally build an addition onto his house? I can't believe that the house is worth more even with a new roof AND an addition - with the housing market. If she gets any theoretical sweat equity that isn't there because of the down housing market - he can and should appeal. That would be an easy win."
Now you're saying the 50k is just for the home improvements? I've said before, the 50k is for everything, property distribution, pendente lite, minus debt. My lawyer took the established formula used in VA for spousal support. The amount is very high b/c of the huge difference in income.
"Cashing out money to invest poorly sux, but I doubt they are going to make him pay for it. Its hard to make a hard prediction, because you don't see women do this very often, but when men do it - no way. Would never happen. Too bad so sad mister. And that is what leans me to that side. Its not even a CLOSE loss when guys argue it."
I don't know what you are talking about here. Is it his wanting to use my check for stocks?
ETA: The divorce was final in in July. The property and support hearing was in Nov.
Edited by english7 (12/17/10 12:05 PM)