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Re: My court hearing
12/17/10 11:57 PM
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[quote]"She handled it how she handled it."
One size does not fit all. We've all made decisions that turned out not so good in hind sight. To beat someone up for not acting rationally or logically in an abusive situation is sad at best. As to what is fair and isn't fair for her to receive... too many factors I'm not familiar with for me to judge. I hope the outcome will be fair for all parties involved and will give some closure on these events, an opportunity to move on and start over. [/quote]
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Just to comment on that, I want to be clear that I don't thing she's wrong for not following the most well thought out course of action when she was in a panic. That's totally understandable. I am saying that I don't think she should be allowed to profit from the situation MORE because she reacted emotionally rather than logically.
I believe a short marriage after relocating and giving up a good job for love should result in a few grand to get back on your feet.....pay moving expenses, security deposit on a rental, and maybe a few months rent until you can get a new job.
If she had moved forward with the divorce process then, that's what I think she SHOULD have been entitled to. I would hope the court would have supported that. E7 has a variety of excuses, but basically......she did not make sure this was moving forward for over a year.
I don't have direct experience with this either, but my assumption is if you are married to someone who is active military during wartime, you are supposed to consider that there is more than a remote possibility that they might be deployed. I'm a master procrastinator, but I'm thinking if I wanted my marriage to be OVER, I wouldn't let things stall for that amount of time. Well, I might.......if I felt like 'something' might happen to him when deployed and I could get his life insurance and widow's benefits, BUT I think a person who wanted the marriage to be over would be more motivated to end it.
So then he gets deployed and things can't progess/she can't get temporary orders because he is deployed. In my mind, that was over a year later.....she should have already been 'settled' by then.
I don't think a few grand should turn into $50,000 because of the choices she made.
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