"your story is the ONLY one I have EVER heard of where the police showed up and handcuffed the guy, with BLEEDING KNUCKLES, and tried to get the "victim" to drop the case."
He washed his hands before opening the door. There was little visible blood on his knuckles when he was questioned and subdued. They did not try to get me to drop the case. Again, you are reading into it what you want to see. Interpreting it in a way that will fit your perspective. They also questioned me, doubted me, as they should, to determine who the primary aggressor was. In the end, they all looked at him with anger and put the cuffs on him.
"Also, I DO NOT, for a SECOND, believe that he was showing up at your JOB, and when you complained to the police, they told you to stop GOING there. I mean that is just flat out STUPID."
He showed up to find me. Two professors told me about it. The detective I talked to told me not to go there again, but this was after I'd already spoken to both my dept. chair and the dean about whether or not I should resign. It was they who suggested I resign and call the police.
"Bottom line, my opinion as to what happened, you left NY for Virginia, it was not all peaches and cream, you wanted out for whatever reason, and used his rage to justify quitting your job and going back to NY."
Yes, you are right that marriage to him went from bad to worse in that short time and that is why I left. I could not get him to counseling or to an individual counselor. His military friends tried to get him to control his anger. He kept saying he would. I did not need to justify anything. I fled a man who had threatened my life, who was off his rocker. That is the "whatever reason" you write about. I did not miss NY.
The spousal support you say I don't deserve is for temporary support that I should have had while the divorce was pending, not for anything after that. I could have asked for spousal support for 6 months after the final decree, but I did not.
"I will NEVER believe they looked at a stalking victim, where the "stalker" had NO REASON for being at the location, and they tell the VICTIM to stop going to WORK."
I don't understand what you mean.
"and used his rage to justify quitting your job and going back to NY."
I've said it before, you sound like my ex. Interesting that both of you have control problems with your mothers. He's claimed that we had a "big fight" and that he lost his temper a bit, and that I used that as an excuse to leave him. He also said that I abandoned him in his moment of need. I can see you saying the same thing. I can also see you doing exactly what he did, but making sure you left marks. You have that much anger in you. And you would blame your lack of control on me b/c I am immature as a senior citizen, a wh0re, stupid, selfish, and I'm sure I left out about a dozen insults.
If you were my husband, I'd definitely nail you to the wall.