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Just for the statistical purposes...
      01/13/11 02:16 PM

My dad and his wife are divorcing and she is seeking SS. Not specified for how long. He makes about 4 times what she does at least.

They have been married for 4 years now, though they filed for divorce after 3 years. They dated for 6 years (she was collecting rehab alimony plus education expenses from husband number 1). She actually failed to turn in her final project and never got her degree (Dad didn't know that until after the marriage and he was helping her find a job that she lied about getting her Masters). So her earning potential is not great.

He purchased a home for them together a few weeks before they married in his name only, with his inheritance. They did not sell their previous homes. He remodled her previous home to add some room, rehab the kitchen, and added a bathroom after they married (they wanted to sell it but the market sh!tcanned and then they did). He saved every receipt for this, but he did the work himself (Dad put himself through college working for a general contractor so he is pretty handy). Dad JUST sold the "mutual" home for a total loss of the downpayment (his inheritance). He has a few cars he came into the marriage with she still has her car she came in with. They have a mutual restraining order - he says she attacked him with scissors and he shoved her and she fell and "sprained" her finger. Don't know her version but they both sought medical attention. HE claims that she began abusing alcohol on top of prescription shopping shortly after they married that slowly escalated to a point where it was out of control. I know she passed out once while drawing a bath and flooded the bathroom and ruined the kitchen ceiling. She also fell onto the dishwasher door and broke it. And she turned the water on in the basement and forgot and flooded it - necessitating replacement of all the carpet. Then her old house was being foreclosed on because she secretly began pocketing the money dad gave her instead of paying the mortgage. He then asked for a divorce and called her parents and told them she had a drug/alcohol problem. She allegedly came after him with scissors etc. She says he is hiding money and cheated on her. He says no, and I say if he is/did she'll never find/prove it. Because he is not unskilled at deception.

They have a pre-nup, that basically says what you came in with is yours and no SS, but she never sought her own counsel before signing it.

She wants:
Half the amount of the downpayment on the "mutual" house.
Half of everything else he owns.
SS

He wants:
no SS
Either way mutual house is a wash (but his contention is that he bought it premarital without her name with his inheritance so it is not hers in any way).
They each keep their "stuff" and homes

At my urging he has had his lawyer lay on the table his investment in her house that he is entitle to half the equity increase or compensation for his investment and sweat investment. Her lawyer seemed anxious to settle once he got that information, but she is sticking to wanting SS and seems to think he can't touch the house.

I'll let y'all know how it turns out in a few weeks...

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* Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom 01/13/11 02:16 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... ks_granny   01/16/11 11:36 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/13/11 02:27 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 02:29 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/13/11 03:31 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... gr8Dad   01/13/11 04:49 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 04:55 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/13/11 07:06 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 07:16 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... finz   01/13/11 07:23 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 07:56 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/13/11 08:07 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... Maury   01/13/11 03:42 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... hanzblinx   01/13/11 04:18 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/13/11 04:25 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... hanzblinx   01/13/11 05:09 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... DedicatedDad   01/13/11 05:45 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/13/11 07:09 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... yregna   01/17/11 01:31 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... DedicatedDad   01/13/11 10:22 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/14/11 07:55 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/14/11 08:29 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/14/11 08:45 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... yregna   01/14/11 10:17 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/14/11 11:01 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... yregna   01/14/11 03:53 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/14/11 04:43 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... 1966Gal   01/14/11 09:32 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... gr8Dad   01/13/11 07:22 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 05:57 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... DedicatedDad   01/13/11 06:15 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... Cassie23   01/18/11 06:42 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... DedicatedDad   01/19/11 09:22 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   02/15/11 08:05 AM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... finz   01/13/11 07:06 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 04:43 PM
. * * Re: Just for the statistical purposes... elliesmom   01/13/11 02:27 PM

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