[quote]I have a hard time believing that somone on the receiving end of a "dead marriage" who could win the alimony lottery would not continue to do so - if such a thing existed. So yeah, I don't think you could stop a divorce based on what you will have to pay. Because the other person would likely have an "F you" attitude and take what they can get.
I don't know how you think you will change the laws in CO without some evidence that the laws are enforced in a punitive fashion compared to other states. Perhaps again - you can pursue places that have performed child custody studies and see how theirs were funded and done. Usually child custody studies are done to support fathers rights - and alimony might fall under that purview since almost all alimony payors are men. [/quote]
Sealing all divorce records made any reform in Colorado much more difficult. This is exactly what the Colorado Bar wants. They know if a fair system with concrete guidelines were to be established, they would lose half of their business. They already are in crisis mode because people are giving up on marriage here, especially second marriages, and when there are fewer marriages, there are fewer divorces. I know many people who have divorced in the past ten years, I know exactly ONE who has remarried. Everyone else just lives together to avoid being put through the hell that is the Colorado Family Law system. The airwaves are filled with ads from divorce lawyers, and you can call one up and get an appointment literally within hours, because their business has dropped off and they are desperate.
The only way reform is going to happen is if there is a ballot initiative. These are common in Colorado, and I truly believe if people were given the truth about the situation here, it would pass easily. The *only* opposition would come from the Colorado Bar, which would certainly spend millions on tear jerking, fear mongering TV ads. I would counter with ads showing women tossing wads of cash in the air and proclaiming that they just won the Colorado Alimony Lottery, isn't it great? In fact, I believe one strategy would be to start nationally advertising for women to move to Colorado, establish 90 day residency, and then file for divorce under Colorado laws. This would be totally legal. If your wife establishes residency here, which only takes 90 days, she can file for divorce and you are now stuck defending in Colorado, even if you have never set foot here. The problem is that ballot initiatives cost a minimum of half a million to get on the ballot. No one paying alimony has that kind of cash to front an effort.