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Debi
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Re: Gift to child from new significant other.

02/21/11 10:16 AM

I see a bunch of different views here. I certainly understand why you see it as a nice gesture. This is someone you know pretty well and over the course of 6 months I'm sure you've spoken to her about your son and she may even feel as if she "knows" him because of that. However he doesn't know her, has never met her and only recently learned she exisited and IMO that DOES make the giving of a birthday gift a little "creepy".

Of course your son would like the gift. Who wouldn't at 11? An extra gift is always a bonus, and I'm sure he wouldn't have worn it if he hadn't really liked it. I think your x acted a bit extreme and I don't see the need for lawyers and modifications. I don't see an issue with what the gift IS (as in it's a personal item as your x said) but with the way the gift was given.

I too think it could have been handled better but not in the way you stated. Hiding things or teaching your child to hide things from the other parent isn't the way to go (think how you'd feel if the child was taught to hide something from you in the future because his mother found out you didn't like it). I think the way to handle it would have been to tell your GF to hold on to the gift until she meets your son so she could give it to him personally. Frankly if someone I was dating, who never met my child and they bought them something and asked me to give it to them I'd raise my own eyebrows. It wouldn't take my x to do it.

I'm sure there was no hidden intent behind it and she was just trying to be nice but I think you should look at it from all of the angles. Not just "This is my GF and someone I care about therefore she isn't a stranger." I would one hundred percent totaly agree with the other responses IF you son knew her or had even met her but he hasn't.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Gift to child from new significant other.	peytonmanning18	02/18/11 07:33 AM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	Debi	02/21/11 10:16 AM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	lauramc27	02/21/11 06:53 PM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	Debi	02/27/11 05:13 PM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	DedicatedDad	02/22/11 07:25 AM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	peytonmanning18	02/23/11 09:09 PM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	lauramc27	02/22/11 08:20 PM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	c_jane	02/21/11 03:07 PM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	lauramc27	02/18/11 09:58 AM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	finz	02/18/11 06:56 PM
Re: Gift to child from new significant other.	peytonmanning18	02/19/11 08:33 AM

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