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finz
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Re: Need some answers please!

02/23/11 02:00 AM

[quote]I know what you are pointing out, but you do not know the history.
I posted in defense of an OP who finz insulted. She does that frequently. Can you understand that? [/quote]

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OP was married and fully supported for 23 years to someone that she INSISTS is a deadbeat dad. In her REPEATED defense of her INCORRECT definition of a deadbeat dad, she insisted she had further proof he was an awful dad because he was always working and trying to figure out how to better support his family.....that he has ALWAYS been emotional unavailable to the kids.

If OP, and you, are insulted by hearing the TRUTH....that it was STUPID to make 2 more babies with someone that you are 100% positive is a bad father. Doh !

That is a topic that is near and dear to my heart. As much as I love my younger son, before he was conceieved the writing was already on the wall about my marriage. I knew there was something wrong with my marriage and my husband's ability to relate emotionally with others. I chose to put my blinders on and hope things would change. I shouldn't have brought another child into the picture.

I think it's fair to vent my my mom, or sister, or friend about his personality traits, but I don't think it's fair for me to exagerrate facts on this forum or in front of a judge to try to convince people I deserve full custody, more child support, permission to move the kids away, or more spousal support (that's a general list of issues I've seen here that people seem to think they deserve special treatement for because their ex has been SOOOOO awful....yet they stayed married and made more babies.....doh !)

I don't give people sympathy for blaming their spouse for being the ONLY one who did anything wrong when that is OBVIOUSLY not the case. If they seem a littl oblivious and unable to see the situation clearly, I gently try to set them straight. If they've already been told something by other posters and they start to get snitty in defense of their position, I have no problem taking the gloves off.

OP REPEATEDLY kept INCORRECTLY tossing around the deadbeat dad insult after several posters told her how offensive they found that. Then she explained how ex was happy to make money and she was happy to take it, but he stopped making it so it's fine to check out of the marriage......."I was married to a man who loved making money more than creating relationships and making memories. When he wasn't making money it was easy to leave because there was no connection with us. My heart breaks for my kids" Her heart wasn't broken when the money was good, but now that he's not making bank he suddenly WAS ALWAYS the worst daddy ever. If that doesn't smell like a golddigger to you, I think your golddigger meter is a little off.

You don't have to like my style. But......I have no plans to change.

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Need some answers please!	forkintheroad	02/16/11 05:49 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	yregna	02/17/11 05:04 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	forkintheroad	02/20/11 12:29 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/20/11 01:11 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	forkintheroad	02/20/11 03:32 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	Miranda	02/20/11 03:49 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	elliesmom	02/20/11 03:50 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	forkintheroad	02/20/11 05:18 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/20/11 10:05 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	gr8Dad	02/21/11 12:04 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	forkintheroad	02/21/11 12:42 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	gr8Dad	02/21/11 07:07 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/20/11 10:27 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/21/11 08:08 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 12:03 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/22/11 05:38 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 05:50 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/22/11 07:10 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 08:55 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/22/11 09:04 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 09:12 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/23/11 01:06 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 09:32 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/23/11 12:59 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/22/11 09:36 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 09:59 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 10:04 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	annieo	02/22/11 10:22 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 10:24 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	annieo	02/22/11 10:32 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 10:45 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/23/11 02:00 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/23/11 08:47 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/24/11 09:42 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/24/11 04:18 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/24/11 08:33 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/24/11 09:49 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/24/11 10:33 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/24/11 11:07 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/24/11 11:41 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	gr8Dad	02/24/11 11:44 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	yngwies_guitar	02/25/11 03:10 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	BeckaLeigh	02/25/11 07:30 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	gr8Dad	02/24/11 11:22 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 10:20 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/23/11 01:24 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/23/11 09:05 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/23/11 10:41 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	annieo	02/23/11 11:22 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/23/11 11:50 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	Sherron	02/23/11 11:30 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/23/11 11:52 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	Miranda	02/23/11 11:20 AM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/22/11 07:00 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/22/11 07:11 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	finz	02/22/11 08:59 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	english7	02/21/11 10:35 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/20/11 03:42 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	gr8Dad	02/20/11 12:36 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	d2njti	02/17/11 02:36 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/16/11 06:07 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	forkintheroad	02/16/11 08:13 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/16/11 09:16 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	spinnerdegrassi	02/16/11 09:20 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	DedicatedDad	02/16/11 09:33 PM
Re: Need some answers please!	hanzblinx	02/17/11 10:52 AM

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