walkd2
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Re: Would like to get some input...
03/07/11 01:49 PM
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Thanks for listening and for the input. I did a full credit search for both me and my husband, and the cards are all in his name. I consulted with a bankruptcy attorney, along with a divorce attorney, and both assure me I'm off the hook for the debt strictly in his name. That doesn't mean it feels good watching us have to sell our assets in order to help him dig his way out. But he is looking at chapter 7 or chapter 13 bankruptcy, depending if I leave or not - no way around it, he can't pay those bills. If I leave, I think I actually help him a bit financially because he could probably get chapter 7, especially having to pay child support.
I am 100% sure about no affairs...i combed through pages and pages of the credit card statements, and before all this happened, we had had many years arguing over sex. There is a great website by a female counselor who wrote a book about guys like this...some just really do have lower sex drives and there are women out there like me beating themselves up thinking they aren't attractive enough, or good enough in bed, or that their partners are out there cheating on them. Though I was big time lied to on the money, I know there's no other women. Doesn't make any of this any easier, and as crazy as this sounds, I wish it was an affair I was dealing with rather than the $84k and a decade of lying. At least affairs usually come out after even a few years, and the man usually wants to clearly stay or clearly leave.
This feels like a bigger mess, though I don't know for sure and I feel bad for anyone on the forums who are dealing with affairs. A good friend of mine is dealing with that right now and her heartache is every bit as bad as mine.
Thanks again for listening. I know I have a lot to think about.
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