My Ex and I have a shared parenting with our two children, ages 2 and 4. She moved from OH to UT during our divorce in December 2009 and I foolishly allowed it to happen, partially due to bad advice from my atty (I later learned that the advice was not so good). My Ex has never held a job for longer than two weeks, lived with her aunt in UT and concerned herself more with finding a new husband to support her, and to no surprise met an australian guy online in March 2010 and wanted to move with the kids to australia and marry. I put an abrubt stop to this, and refused to allow it (with help from a new atty, the same that also informed me I could have prevented her from moving in the first place).
She went to australia in May 2010 and married this guy the same month, while I had the kids with me, and she then shared her plans to move from UT to TX where her new husband would support them with his new job. Her new husband also had to leave behind his three children in australia because his ex wouldn't allow them to leave. Due to this change, I brought the issue of parenting time and child support back to court, and we adapted a long distance shared parenting plan where I get them every summer, but due to both bdays being in July, every other year my summertime is shortened. Also every other spring break, and christmas.
We've gone appx a year now with this current agreement, and works fine though I'd love to see my children more, but we do mantain a good relationship through skype and so on. Just the other day, my ex informs me that they are probably going to move again, and this time to Idaho, because it has more nature, more same faith members, and all four seasons and less hispanics, which she's surrounded by in Houston. She believes that it's the best option for their family (she is pregnant now)to grow and be happy. The only reason why she will not move back to OH is because (and this is what she told me) she's afraid that if she did, I would prevent her from moving away later if she saw fit. I am a Police Officer, and am in my 6th year at my department. I am a homeowner, land owner and in a new relationship with a woman that has children of her own. I cannot easily relocate myself to be closer to my children or I would.
What are my best options in this situation. Can my ex's decision such as hastely remarrying and in-ability to settle down and provide for the children should her husband ever move back to Australia to be with his kids(He can't visit because the australian govt wont allow him to leave due to non payment of child support), be any grounds to change our custody agreement? I am very doubtful that the courts would consider a change in custody, causing my kids to live primarily with me, but is that possible?
What should I do?