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Trying to cope
      06/07/11 03:09 PM

Hi. I'm new to this, but thought now was the time for me to find help in moving on. I filed for divorce back in November. I am 24 and was married for 4 1/2 years, up until the last year of my marriage, my husband was physically and emotionally abusive. This was something i couldnt get over and the last year of our marriage wasn't good. After i filed for divorce, i started dating someone new. Yes this was a rebound, while i didn't think it was at the time, i can look back now and realize it was. My ex husband and i were still talking up until this point. Even after i started dating him, my ex and i still hung out on occassion and texted often. After my relationship ended, my ex and i started hanging out even more. This was something we were both enjoying and it was nice to get to know each other again, like we had never dated before. Since we wouldn't just be a normal couple, i told him i needed to take a step back. Not from seeing him, just going from everyday seeing him, to seeing him less a week. He understood, and seemed ok with that. Just last week, he helped me move into my new apartment, we kissed, we went to lunch (we work at the same place) Then yesterday he tells me about the girl hes hung out with a couple times and how he wants to try things with her. I understand i hurt him. We have both been hurt in this whole ordeal, and it was my decision to leave (which he later thanked me for, because he became a better person), now it seems like he did this to hurt me. Caused me to have feelings for him all over again, just to stab me so i know how he felt. This is a worse feeling than when we actually got divorced, because i don't have closure. Its hard to get closure when we were dating again, and he takes it all away. I haven't eaten, slept and i spent all day monday crying. I dont know how to let him go now, but its obvious i need to since he is wanting to date this other girl. How do i let go? how do i stop texting him and get past him when i have such strong feelings for him again?

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