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psioux
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Reged: 05/16/11
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Re: Trying to cope

06/08/11 09:07 AM

I SO understand how you are feeling. I ineatied the divorce, and held together through it, rebounded with someone else and now all I want is the life I had with my best friend again. He hasnt' told me he is dating anyone, actually told me he isn't ready for that. But I know he is. I know exactly where you are coming from. I can't eat (everything tastest like cardboard) and I have trouble sleeping, I cry all the time, I don't know who to talk to.... oh, do I ever know how you feel.

I've had to take a step back, realize that i can't control things, realize that there was hurt on both sides, and realize that there is something out there, maybe something better. But right now, I'm just thinking, I need to do for me. I need to find things that make me happy. I always planned to work hard, take care of someone, love someone, and be a part of someone else. But I don't have that. I don't want to just forget about me, as I have for a long time now. It is SO hard to look to myself for happiness. I am still reaching out to friends and family hoping they have something more for me. But it's in you! I'm still on the low end of my climb to be a stronger person. I still have ALLOT of work to do. I still don't know what to do much of the time. But I take it one minute, one day, one week at a time. Make a decision for me, at this time. I need to stop planning so far into a future that is free (sounds better than unknown.... right?). I have freedom, and I need to be happy.

I was always happy and worked so hard to help others before. Now I need help, and I have been so suprised how my friends have come to help me. there is a lot of love out there from others. I have started to go to counciling to help me see maybe some things I haven't. And she has suggested a support group. I have planned on starting to go to that. I need to start journaling too, everyone on here says it has helped.

Reach out to others. My situation in that I never let go of the Ex is so like yours. I hurt, and I don't know if I should try to hold on tighter or let go. I keep telling myself that old saying - if you let them go and they come back it was meant to be. He has become the man I met, and more independant and happier because he has concentrated on himself these past few months. He is trying to help me do the same. I wonder if it's a good or bad thing. There is no hate between us. I hope there never is. but I just feel a lot of hurt. Just like you. You're not alone.

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Trying to cope	brittanybr24	06/07/11 03:09 PM
Re: Trying to cope	psioux	06/08/11 09:07 AM

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