NinaEll
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Re: Moving/School issues- 20 miles away in utah
06/20/11 02:20 PM
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Thanks for all of the comments. The current situation (or i guess what it was the my husbands 6 year old was attending kindergarten) was this: She currently goes to daycare in the city that her mom and my husband used to work(10.7 miles away from her mom's home). My husband and I enrolled her in school by the daycare because the daycare transports to and from school, it also had a much higher rating of education. Her mom unenrolled her from that school furious that we would enroll her in school and saying that my husband had absolutely no right to do that because SHE was the "custodial parent" (at the time all we had were temporary orders stating that she was the custodial parent) After schoool started she told my husband that she would not be picking her up from school so if one of us couldn't pick her up from school then she would just have to sit in the office until one of us could get off work, so every day either my husband or i had to leave work drive 12.3 miles to the school, 10.7 miles to the daycare then 16.9 miles back to work.
I know all of that driving did not directly affect the kids because 6 yo was only in the car for 10.7 miles of that drive, but it was very frusterating to us because the situation was very unavoidable and i had to not only use up all of my vacation time, but eventually taking unpaid time off because it took more time to make that run than vacation i earned. --- This sentence probably makes me sound like we are moving that far away to be vengeful and "give her a taste of her own medicine" but that is NOT the case. We happened to get a killer deal on the house that has room for all of us and it is in a very good neighborhood with lots of young kids.
I think a lot of people are confused by what i said. We are moving 20 miles away from our home. It is 26.2 miles away from their mom's home and 24.6 miles away from her work. The time that the kids are actually in the car during each day would actually be reduced by approximately 10-15 min a day due to the difference in traffic to and from the new house vs. daycare.
@Goodmom-"To be honest, it really isn't fair to expect her to share in the added cost that your choice made"---- Yes, this is a choice that we made to move that distance, but i will not be charging her to care for the kids, saving her the $400/mo that she has been paying for daycare. Even with the added gas $ she will be saving quite a bit not paying for childcare. I think having the option to keep the kids at home vs. sending them to daycare and having them in school close to the home adds at least a little more consistancy than what they have been through for the past 4 years.
@Tweeby- we tried to do exchanges at Mcdonalds but she refused to do it. Instead she insisted that we do the exchange at her home with a police assist. In my mind that is a lot worse on the kids to have to have a police present than at a church or public place, but she just flat out refuses:(
@googledad- Thank you for the code!
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