@ Debi- Really? WTH makes you think he omitted information? Yeah, things are really close together timing wise, but i can honestly say that the first house we looked at was not until the begining of march. We were planning on renting for a while longer but we didn't want to register kids in yet another school just to pull them out when we do find a home. We started looking just to see what the market was like, see what we could get in our price range and ended up looking where we did because a realtor friend mentioned the pricing out there. Ended up being able to build a 7 bedroom house with a big playroom, right next to a park, lots of kids, good schools and an awesome view of mountains and a lake. If i am buying a home, i do not plan on moving until the kids are older and out of the house. Why would we settle on something smaller, dumpier, etc just to save her the miles on her vehicle?
Ultimately, the point you both are arguing is that it is cruel to the kids to make them have so much travel time in the car... I don't see your point, it will end up being less travel time than their current situation, they will have stability, they will be able to stay at home vs daycare and they will have a school where they can be well educated and they won't have to move schools anymore. Are you saying it is healthier to continue the schedule we currently are running? Either way they are back and forth a lot between parents, that is unfortunately what happens with split families but this at least eliminates one of the aspects which is daycare.
I won't be surprised if we do end up back in court, but we will continue to fight for what is best for the kids, which i believe is this.
Oh and if you only knew... you say make thing difficult in regards to religious and medical portion. That is the LEAST of our worries as far as things she could make difficult! She wants to raise the kids catholic, my husband and I are not religious people. We respect that, in fact we make the kids available for her to take to church on all of our sundays. That is not good enough, she wants us to drop them off. We drop them off at church so they wouldn't have to miss, out of respect for what religion she wants them to be, she is not even there said she wouldn't be coming but wants us to drop a 4 and 6 year old off without any parental supervision... at 6 yo kindergarten graduation, 4 yo has his eyes swollen shut and blisters on his face. My husband asks her what is wrong with him and she says eczema and promptly pulls him away and leaves, i have dealt with eczema my whole life on an extreme scale and blisters are not associated with that. My husband sends her a text to ask if she is taking him to the doctor. She responds "mind your own business" He makes a doc appt and tells her he is going to pick him up and take him. After an hour of saying no she finally agreed. Doctor says he has pink eye, an ear infection, streap throat and blisters are from an allergic reaction from food or an unfamiliar pet (they recently picked up a stray dog... weird) All of this and she was not going to take him to the doctor.
This is how she works. She will hurt the kids to prove her authority on decision making.
You reap what you sow... i think that statement is finally catching up with her for what she has done for the last few years. Karma is a [censored]