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Annie7676
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Re: Just cannot cope...

06/23/11 04:40 PM

I am sorry that this is happening to you.

How do you cope? By taking baby steps, one minute at a time. Lean on family, friends, get into counseling, if you go to church talk to your minister, pastor, read self help books, do just about anything you can do to move forward as hard as it is.

Its very hard when our spouses leave for another person and we didn't want it to happen. Focus on your kids and helping them deal with this as difficult as it is.

I really don't know what helps, time eventually does if you can work towards moving towards recognizing that he has left. My X left after a LTM, I hung on way too long but mine lied and didn't admit there was OW. I believe now that if I had known there was a OW it would have been easier to inch forward. I would have had no desire to try and hang on to someone who wanted to leave.

You deserve and your kids deserve to be with a spouse that wants to be there, he has made it clear he doesn't want that by leaving. YOu can try and save the marriage but only if he wants to work with you. If he doesn't then your efforts will be best placed at planning what you need to do to situate yourself without him.

I know it hurts and its sad but put yourself and kids first. Yes with kids you have to see him but put on your game face and go from there.

I am sure that others will respond and give some good advice. I wish you all the best, it does get easier with time.

If you have not sought legal advice, then I recommend you do so in order to know your rights. Be prepared for what will happen if you pursue a divorce.

Good luck.

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Just cannot cope...	Debbra	06/20/11 11:11 AM
Re: Just cannot cope...	singleguy49	07/05/11 08:11 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	RebeccaFein	08/04/11 02:15 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	peachy255	08/08/11 05:19 AM
Re: Just cannot cope... DELETED	Moon123	08/12/11 02:48 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	Katercat	08/15/11 04:45 AM
Re: Just cannot cope...	Annie7676	06/23/11 04:40 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	desiburton	06/26/11 04:40 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	yregna	06/20/11 12:31 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	singleguy49	07/05/11 08:00 PM
Re: Just cannot cope...	Kar1958	06/21/11 01:03 PM

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