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LexieBelle
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Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't

07/08/11 11:03 AM

[quote]You do realize that unless you have wedding pictures on the wall,or have framed your marriage license, your kids don't KNOW if you are married or not. [/quote]

----------->> I would tweak this a little and say they don't HAVE to know. Meaning, they'd obviously know if you introduced your husband with the title "my husband". If you introduce someone as "my boyfriend" or whatever, then they'd know from that.

With exSO I didn't give him a "label", I didn't with my ex either. They have a name, that's sufficient, no need for "this is MY husband". Seems overly... possessive.. to me. Plus, at this age, to use "boyfriend" seems terribly juvenile. This is so and so, and leave it at that.

I don't disagree with "values", I just don't think they HAVE to be tied to a piece of paper or ceremony in front of "God". I think EVERYONE should have the right to that piece of paper, and that ceremony, if that is what THEY WANT. But I don't think it's fair to say someone doesn't have values just b/c it's not something they want or need.

Take Charlize Theron. She just did an interview on Piers Morgan. She doesn't believe in "marriage". And won't do it. However, she believes in OTHERS' right to it. She isn't a floozie or whatever, she's had very few and very long-term relationships. She's not tabloid fodder, she doesn't have a bad red (very unusual for Hollywood) she just doesn't need a paper/ceremony/approval by "God" to have a commmitted relationship.

And, as Gr8 said, marriage IS something manmade. What he said is absolutely correct. In fact, in i believe it is Native American Indian culture they do NOT believe in lifelong partnership to one person. They believe that each person has seasons and that a different partner may be appropriate for the varying seasons. I tend to agree with this philosophy.

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Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 10:47 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	movingfwd999	07/04/11 04:08 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	KrazyKat	07/03/11 10:03 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	07/03/11 10:33 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	KrazyKat	07/05/11 07:26 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	07/05/11 08:11 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/05/11 10:54 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	finz	07/06/11 01:37 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/06/11 07:55 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	07/06/11 08:04 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/06/11 02:08 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	finz	07/07/11 09:39 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/07/11 10:01 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/08/11 11:03 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	M5M5	07/07/11 10:27 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	finz	07/07/11 10:14 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/07/11 10:21 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	finz	07/10/11 11:25 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/08/11 10:54 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	DedicatedDad	07/07/11 11:00 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	DedicatedDad	07/08/11 10:15 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/07/11 11:05 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/08/11 05:18 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	07/08/11 09:41 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/08/11 09:51 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	KrazyKat	07/08/11 10:42 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/09/11 07:27 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	KrazyKat	07/09/11 09:58 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/09/11 10:19 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/09/11 11:27 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/11/11 06:07 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	finz	07/10/11 11:08 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/08/11 01:51 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onerose	07/08/11 12:29 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Sherron	07/07/11 11:34 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/07/11 11:36 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Sherron	07/07/11 11:38 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/06/11 02:07 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/04/11 09:04 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	07/05/11 08:08 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/03/11 11:29 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Avaya	07/05/11 09:00 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	KrazyKat	07/05/11 07:31 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	07/05/11 08:09 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	07/04/11 05:56 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Avaya	07/01/11 10:00 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	06/30/11 07:08 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	06/30/11 12:34 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	06/30/11 07:07 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	06/30/11 07:18 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Avaya	07/01/11 10:03 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/01/11 11:15 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Goodmom	06/30/11 07:47 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 08:37 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	06/30/11 11:11 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 08:54 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/01/11 09:26 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 09:35 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/01/11 09:51 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	07/01/11 10:08 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/01/11 10:37 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	DedicatedDad	07/01/11 07:47 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 07:54 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	07/01/11 10:19 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 10:03 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/01/11 11:14 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	AngelBaby	07/12/11 05:52 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/12/11 10:39 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Tweeby	07/12/11 02:59 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 11:34 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/01/11 12:30 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 12:39 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/01/11 12:57 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 01:10 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	07/01/11 07:22 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	07/01/11 08:12 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 07:46 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	07/01/11 10:30 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	07/01/11 10:51 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	07/01/11 11:02 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	Sherron	07/01/11 11:12 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	07/01/11 11:10 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	07/01/11 10:45 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	06/30/11 09:44 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 07:38 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	06/30/11 01:01 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 02:56 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 03:01 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	gr8Dad	06/30/11 07:00 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	06/30/11 04:08 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	06/30/11 03:12 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	LexieBelle	06/30/11 02:54 PM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	06/30/11 11:03 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	ssmom79	06/30/11 11:43 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 11:19 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	SRS	06/30/11 11:27 AM
Re: Trying to do right when ex isn't	onmyown_36	06/30/11 11:30 AM

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