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AngelBaby
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50/50 split legal custody mayhem
      07/12/11 05:20 AM

I want to start with an apology if I start ranting because anytime I talk about my sons biological mom I get irritated because she causes turmoil in our family.

My husband and I have primary physical custody Sunday afternoon through Fridays after school and bio mom has him on the weekends. (In the summer it is flip flopped but we still have primary physical)

However, the legal custody (life changing decisions such as school, medical, extracurricular, etc...) is split 50/50.

Now, because our son is with us during the entire school week I am the one working with him on homework and staying involved with the school (she is allowed to be involved with the school too such as teachers meetings but she is rarely ever there) I see how much my son is struggling. He is very social and on top of that he has been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactive disorder. To say the least it is very difficult for him to function adequately in a classroom with twenty+ other students. His teachers have said many times (understatement) that he was sent to the principals office for the rest of the day because he was so disruptive in class that they couldn't even teach the lesson for the day. He is going into fourth grade this year and I fear the worst. I really don't want a repeat of last year. It was VERY taxing on our whole family.

I have been looking at other options that may help my son through this stage in his life with minimal emotional scars. I have been researching cyber school (still considered public schools!) I even took him to one of their conferences so he could check it out and see what it would be like if he was enrolled. He said to the instructor that he wanted to get started already. He was really excited about it. (I was/am too)

Now we get to the part that's really frustrating me. My husband and I brought this idea to my sons biological mom. Almost immediately she became upset and emotionally unstable and started crying and saying that we don't care about her opinion that we make all the decisions for our son and so on. She doesn't even want to let him test it out with the possibility of, if it doesn't work out we would un-enroll him and get him back in where he's at now. She doesn't even want to think about the possibility of him going anywhere else, even at the cost of him bombing again this year. *sigh*

Her argument is that she wants him to have a normal childhood with the memories of school and blah blah... I know what kind of memories he's making at school because I hear from his teachers and the principal almost daily. :( I honestly was looking at the cyber schools because it would get him out of the social setting of public school so that he can focus on learning. All she seems to be worried about is how many friends he has which in my opinion is a very poor reason for allowing your kid to continue in a place where you know he is struggling to no end.

For the sake of not fighting with her we have decided not to move forward with anything as of yet. What happens when he goes back to school here and still has the same problems. Possibly even worse (he's hitting puberty too).

Should we get a lawyer involved? Do we have a chance of being able to make cyber school a reality? Is there a possibility of changing the legal custody to 49/51 over this issue? any input is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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* 50/50 split legal custody mayhem AngelBaby 07/12/11 05:20 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem cincsu   07/18/11 06:02 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/14/11 03:04 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/15/11 02:34 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 12:21 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Debi   07/14/11 09:23 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/15/11 03:12 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/14/11 10:01 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem MrsB   07/14/11 08:58 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/14/11 09:11 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Tweeby   07/14/11 10:18 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem SRS   07/14/11 05:58 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/14/11 11:12 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/14/11 11:56 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/14/11 03:54 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/15/11 07:06 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 12:28 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/15/11 02:59 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 12:29 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem LexieBelle   07/15/11 12:48 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 01:04 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem LexieBelle   07/15/11 01:09 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/18/11 04:31 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem MrsB   07/18/11 09:51 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem LexieBelle   07/18/11 08:26 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem LexieBelle   07/18/11 06:08 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/15/11 03:30 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem MrsB   07/15/11 06:17 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 04:43 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/15/11 05:42 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 08:40 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/15/11 09:34 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/15/11 11:04 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/16/11 07:47 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem LexieBelle   07/16/11 08:33 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem SweetLight   07/17/11 11:41 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/16/11 10:05 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/16/11 10:21 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/17/11 08:03 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem SRS   07/17/11 08:27 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/17/11 08:10 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/17/11 08:37 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/17/11 08:43 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/15/11 02:56 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/14/11 04:20 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/15/11 03:03 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Sherron   07/14/11 05:40 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/14/11 06:52 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem javajunkiee   07/14/11 07:13 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Sherron   07/14/11 11:24 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/14/11 11:32 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/15/11 02:52 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem greeneyes   07/14/11 08:23 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/14/11 08:34 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem greeneyes   07/14/11 10:06 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/14/11 10:46 AM
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. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Sherron   07/14/11 08:41 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/14/11 10:44 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem finz   07/14/11 01:48 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Debi   07/12/11 07:19 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem c_jane   07/12/11 08:32 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem annatof4   07/13/11 01:42 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem gr8Dad   07/12/11 09:23 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Tweeby   07/12/11 09:36 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem SamsDad   07/12/11 06:58 PM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/12/11 08:10 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Goodmom   07/12/11 05:33 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem AngelBaby   07/12/11 06:00 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem Goodmom   07/14/11 04:43 AM
. * * Re: 50/50 split legal custody mayhem ssmom79   07/12/11 08:42 AM
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