Agreed SRS. Either the stepfather or stepmother, should respect the roles and/or titles of the bio parents. We dont even know if the child refers to this step parent as "Mom". Bottom line, the stepmother is referring to this child as "my son", "our son". IMO, it shows as disrespect to the bio mother. Or bio father if the roles were reversed. I have 4 children of my own and 2 step children. So, I am on both sides of this. I know for a fact that I have earned my titled of Mother. From conception, pregnancy, labor, sleepless nights, tons of diapers...wait thats only the first year. :) My defending my title as Mother is not insecurity as I am defending both Mother and Father titles. For this step parent to grossly misuse the "my son", is why people attack on the representation of her story. If she showed a little more respect to even a online forum, maybe she would get a better response.
Also, IMO, this step parent does not respect the bio mother's decision....therefore this post. Parents disagree all the time on issues with children, whether divorced or not. This is no different. The child's mother does not feel that the cyber schooling is best. For whatever reason she feels that way, that decision should be respected. If the other parent feels so strongly, they need to take their case in front of a Judge. Or take other means of resolution to not involve the courts, co-parenting therapy, mediation, or Case Management. But, step parents be prepared, you may not be able to attend. As step parents have no legal rights. Sorry, but it is true.
Step parents don't have it easy at all. But, you knew that there were children involved before you became a step parent. You have to understand the boundaries that you have. As I stated earlier, if it is too much, then step down from what you have taken on and let the parents...be parents!