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Re: Just cannot cope...
      08/15/11 04:45 AM

Itís imperative that you focus on yourself, first and foremost. This does not mean to the exclusion of everything else, but that you give yourself top priority. The reason for this is simple. You may at first feel guilty about focusing on yourself in an effort to truly rediscover who you are or reinvent yourself completely. You are used to taking care of everyone else, putting othersí needs ahead of your own, and frankly, this may feel a bit selfish.

Keep in mind: the gift of healing yourself will also be a gift to others. If you have children, they will get to watch how you handle a crisis and come out stronger. If you have a job, you may bring a fresh, strong attitude that can only be a boon to your work.

A spouseís infidelity impacts you on many levels. But one of the most personal is what happens to your thoughts. Waves of ugliness crash through your mind, with self-doubt and self-recriminations taking front and center. You need to constructively manage these thoughts by countering them with self-talk that moves you forward.

I hope this is helpful.

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* Just cannot cope... Debbra 06/20/11 11:11 AM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... singleguy49   07/05/11 08:11 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... RebeccaFein   08/04/11 02:15 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... peachy255   08/08/11 05:19 AM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... *DELETED* Moon123   08/12/11 02:48 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... Katercat   08/15/11 04:45 AM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... Annie7676   06/23/11 04:40 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... desiburton   06/26/11 04:40 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... yregna   06/20/11 12:31 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... singleguy49   07/05/11 08:00 PM
. * * Re: Just cannot cope... Kar1958   06/21/11 01:03 PM

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