
tdymadison
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Re: When do you know....
09/02/11 10:37 AM
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You can only decide when its time to give up. You have to make sure you do what is healthy for you. The situation you're in now is obviously unhealthy and it has to change for your sake. Right now my wife and are separated and I am suspecting her of infidelity. Early on during the issues a good friend told me to divorce her, and I got angry as it was not what I wanted to hear. I really wanted to save the marriage and give her the benefit of the doubt and still do, but I could no longer deny the issue. One thing that is working for us is therapy, both couples and individual, as we better understanding what our concerns and issues are and she's getting how her actions are impacting me. Things are getting better, however divorce appears to be highly likely at this point. But for us it has made the situation less unhealthy. However, it works if both people are invested and open to it, and it may not work for everyone. Its been good having someone there to mediate and ask questions that we have been unable to ask each other. You may also want to consider a trail separation. As hard as it is living alone right now, its better than the awkwardness of living together in this current situation. At the end of the day this is an extremely difficult situation and positive steps need to taken for your sake and if he's unwilling to work on it then you need to think about what will be healthiest for you in the long term.
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