You said:
That is what I SAID. Sucking is a COMFORT, and she is DENYING Dad that ability.
My response:
No, she is NOT. As you agreed, there are OTHER ways to comfort a baby.
You said:
So if there is nothing wrong with it, why can't DAD do it?
My response:
I am going to say this slowly: B e c a u s e t h e b a b y i s r e j e c t i n g t h e p a c i f i e r.
The father NEEDS to find OTHER ways to comfort the baby.
You said:
Are you sure you actually HAVE kids? Babies do NOT "reject" stuff, they are reluctant to try new things.
My response:
Oh my, what an ignorant, ignorant statement. I really can't say that enough.
And just goes to show that you clearly don't know much about infants. I have as of yet, in my TEN YEARS (and so that we are clear, this is in addition to my kids. Over all, I have been taking care of young kids for the past 20 years)as a nanny to very young children, including infants and having had two kids myself, to meet a baby who hasn't flat out rejected something. For the first family I was with, the youngest flat out refused the bottle. And this was before the mother even attempted to bf as she was not planning on breastfeeding at all.
I have seen on two occasions, including my youngest, infants reject pacifiers. No matter how hard the parent tried.
Just because they are a baby doesn't mean that they aren't capable of flatout rejecting something. BAER.
You said:
The pacifier is something the baby is not used to,
My response:
And clearly does NOT want to get used to. The baby has rejected the pacifier. It's time for the father to do what other parents do when one method of comfort is flat out refused. Try something else.
You said:
because Mom DOESN'T HAVE TO USE IT< SHE HAS TITS!
My response:
Care to explain why every father that I know, and given that I used to help mothers with breastfeeding issues I have met a lot, managed to find other ways to comfort their babies without the use of a pacifier or lactating breasts?
You said:
He is having a hard time because Mommy is DENYING him the SAME thing SHE uses to comfort the baby, something to suck on.
My response:
The BABY is denying that to him. Which is WHY the supervisor is ending the visits. Because the father is doing something that is very upsetting to the baby. The father needs to find another way to comfort the baby.
You said:
It would be easier on the baby if he had the SAME rights as SHE does, a SAY in how their CHILD is being raised.
My response:
To put it bluntly, he doesn't have lactating breasts. And since EVERY major medical organization out there recommends breastfeeding over formula in the first year of life, he's just going to have to deal with his human baby getting the food that nature intended, human milk. And a court will not side with the father when it comes to breastfeeding. I know of at least one case in NY where the father was throwing away the expressed breastmilk because he didn't want his baby to have it. The court ordered him to give it to the baby.
And as the OP has pointed out, the mother IS PROVIDING the baby with expressed breastmilk DURING the visit. There are other ways to feed a baby besides a bottle. When my two kids were nursing babies, we used sippy cups instead of bottles as they refused the bottle once breastfeeding was firmly established. Some babies just refuse to go back and forth. I was a nanny to such an infant. He flat out refused the bottle. Period. Even when the mother was at work. I found a way to work around it. Just like my ex found a way to work around my not being there when my kids were nursing babies when I went out without the kids. Just like I found a way around it when I watched my cousin's nursing babies (who also rejected the pacifier and bottle) when she and her husband went out. BTW, her husband also found a way to comfort their kids when they were nursing babies.
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