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LexieBelle
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Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan
      09/13/11 10:43 AM

How far are you moving?

Typically moves over 100 miles would be one weekend a month, still alternating holidays and school breaks and a substantial period during the summer (uninterrupted).

For me, I'd really need to know the distance you're talking to give an opinion on what's "reasonable". I have a 200 mile by car/100 mile by ferry distance. We do twice a month and my daughter is going on 6 and just started school. I can tell you that my preference would be go to once a month as the travel is tiring and it does wear on the child. Speaking for my own child, at once a month, that seems to be the "sweet spot" so to speak in terms of not missing the other parent too much versus not creating a ton of issues from travel/visiting. In our case, we don't do extended periods... just doesn't work, at least not so far, with our daughter. Between the fact she comes back extremely sick with each extended visit, AND the fact she comes back with major behavioral issues.. my ex and I have agreed it's not in her best interests to do.

Whatever you do, make sure it's not about "you". Like, for me? I'll do anything. I was a road warrior for years and I can travel as easily as I breathe. What DOES matter is what's best for our daughter and I keep dad fully informed of how things are going, what issues are being experienced, and yup, if that means a phone call to dad in the middle of an issue, that's what it means. So again, don't make it about what you are comfortable with or not.. not that you would, just mentioning it.

Also, you will find here MOST people are adamantly opposed to move-aways.. and they'll get pretty nasty/bytchy about it. Just ignore it. I moved about a year and a half ago. The quality of life my child experiences is VASTLY greater than where we were. And she still has a relationship with her father and half-sister. It DOES matter how you handle it though, so make sure you make it as clean/unstressful as possible.

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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan annieo   09/14/11 02:54 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/14/11 09:26 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan M5M5   09/15/11 03:04 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 08:15 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan M5M5   09/15/11 03:35 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan ssmom79   09/15/11 08:57 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 09:17 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan Cassie23   09/15/11 10:26 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 11:04 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan DedicatedDad   09/15/11 01:20 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan c_jane   09/15/11 01:28 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan Sherron   09/15/11 01:27 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan youngatheart   09/15/11 11:40 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 11:47 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan finz   09/15/11 06:33 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/16/11 07:44 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan finz   09/16/11 05:11 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/17/11 09:32 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan finz   09/18/11 06:32 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan M5M5   09/18/11 11:44 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan Sherron   09/19/11 06:09 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan finz   09/20/11 07:10 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/21/11 12:39 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan finz   09/26/11 07:29 AM
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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 12:43 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan youngatheart   09/15/11 12:51 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 01:02 PM
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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan M5M5   09/15/11 03:37 PM
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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 09:15 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan SweetLight   09/14/11 11:11 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan annieo   09/14/11 10:28 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 12:23 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan SweetLight   09/15/11 12:45 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/15/11 06:33 AM
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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/16/11 01:57 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan SweetLight   09/16/11 11:55 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan Sherron   09/16/11 04:55 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan SweetLight   09/16/11 09:41 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan gr8Dad   09/14/11 09:37 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan finz   09/13/11 10:41 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan ssmom79   09/13/11 12:21 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/13/11 10:43 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan relocatingmom   09/13/11 08:40 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan ssmom79   09/14/11 07:55 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan M5M5   09/13/11 03:37 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/13/11 09:53 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan M5M5   09/14/11 01:15 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan DedicatedDad   09/14/11 01:16 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/14/11 06:29 AM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan Cassie23   09/13/11 10:08 PM
. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan Sherron   09/13/11 11:22 AM
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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/13/11 10:02 PM
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. * * Re: Long Distance Parenting Plan LexieBelle   09/14/11 06:36 AM
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