I'm 40. By the time the youngest is grown, I'm 58. Hope that clears it up.
I have a law degree 10 years ago, by the time I graduated, I had a 1 year old and was 6 months pregnant with #2. I never got my license, because we agreed that it was too important for me to he home with the kids.nd we moved to follow his jobs, so now I'm not in a state where I can just.go take the bar exam. All told, it'll cost about 8K for a bar review course and the exam. And there are NO law firms hiring. NONE. they are housecleaning and downsizing as bad as any other field. So working in the field of my education is a nice theory, but after paying thousands to get prepped for the test, assuming I even pass the BAR, there isn't a job.
And he has only been gone for a month. He isn't with another woman as far as I know. Pastor speaks to him daily, usually for 2-3 hours. He just wants to start a band, play guitar, and not be nagged about doing dishes or mowing the lawn or doing "woman's work." He is 49. He just said he thinks the marriage isn't fair, I have it easy, he does all the hard work as the man, and he's done sacrificing. Seriously. That's his story. It's like he just snapped.
All that said, I would not divorce him, and I would take him back if he were to drop the selfish tantrum. If you're. Praying type of person, please pray. We are a twice-a-week church family, we are tight with our church family and all of our friends are Christian homeschooled families. Everyone is shocked and we are all praying he will soften his heart and come home. I just can't imagine putting my kids on a bus and in a daycare...we never wanted this...