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mystuff
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Spouse does not share JOINT mail - Real Estate

10/26/11 07:22 PM

New to forum. Many questions. Ive been married for 30+ years to someone who has become very angry - volitile the past 10 or so. I have contacted DV groups in the past - this angers him to the point of him threatening me (just words to him he says no one will believe me)..some physical attempts to scare me as well. I am pointing this out so that you realize this is not a situation that I can just discuss with him. He gets angry. He gets 'pushy'.
We own 3 pcs of property. The home we live in primarily - jointly with him living on the lower level for 99 percent of the time. The other is a vacation home investment and another building lot.
We have a post office box for our mail. He get that daily. He GIVES me my mail but takes all the rest. I have no idea what is being sent regarding the properties...taxes, bills etc. He does not share any of it. If I ask, he gets angry and 'pushy'. so I am in the dark. I am not a stupid person but I cannot afford to live on my own at this point. I would like to be able to peacefully list one property in his name, one in mine and the other sold or co own with my son...all 3 of us on that deed if possible in the future.
My big problem now is the secretive way he goes about things. We have had financial problems in the past 5 years and discussed selling the vacation home and other land. He wants all of the money or at minimum he wants me to repay him for any funds he laid out to maintain those properties..as in Property Taxes and Insurance. All of the bills are paid thru a JOINT checking account which he has his SS and Pension depositied in. I do NOT have access to those accounts physically (hides the stuff) but I know I am listed as joint owner on accounts. The properties are all JT ownership in the Entireties..I paid for half of the Vacation home with MY inheritance from my parents. He paid for the other half.
I am very concerned that he is behind on taxes on some of those other properties and that they may be at risk of defaulting. I have no way of getting the info on them, I have tried on line but I fear he will find out and become angry ' pushy' . . Do you know if a County can attach real estate for back taxes if only one of the owners has been contacted? In most NORMAL cases joint owners would receive and share that mail but not here. He keeps it all.
Sorry this is so long but I felt you needed to know some of the background. Do you have any suggestions other then telling me to leave him...as I said, I cant..I would do a legal separation but he does not want that. It would make perfect sense to me since there is nothing between us now other then shared property and two pets (my dogs) that I coown with the breeder.
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