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Re: Mom's dilemna
      10/29/11 10:55 AM

When my wife and her ex divorced 50/50 was mandated, but no CS exchanged, even though my wife was a higher earner. Then post divorce, she continued to earn more based on new education, while he stagnated at the same job. She shouldn't have to subsidize his laziness to ensure there was some kind of magical "equivalence" between households. My SD had to learn that there is no balancing, and that aside from ensuring that each household can maintain the basics, anything on top of that his household dependent, and you can't force the issue. I thought that if he wanted more for his daughter, then he should have taken a higher % of his disposable income, spent less on himself if he wanted equivalency in each place. Reality is though, you're never going to get true balance monetarily.

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