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spinnerdegrassi
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Re: Mom's dilemna

10/30/11 05:17 AM

The number of kids screwed up from typical NCP/CP scenarios on this board vs 50/50 splits is pretty indicative of the fact that in most cases the typical visitation schedule is not conducive to the children growing up in the best scenario. Relationships become even more fragmented when you are given minimal opportunity to see your children because we all know that while 1/100 NCP/CP relationships might be cordial enough not to place strict limitations of when/how the NCP can see the kids, the majority continue in a contentious fashion that uses the kids as pawns in a pissing match between the ex'es.

That's why when my wife and her ex split, with no CS levied, that area of power was decimated, as well as with 50/50, there was no ability to play games and limit time. You took control out of the hands of one parent (CP) to effectively decide how the relationship would be dictated based on their whims to accomodate the NCP. It evened the playing field and assured the child had full access to both parents equally without one taking an advantage. While this might not be a fit all situation, and will not be perfect, it is light years ahead of the majority (not all) of the NCP/CP situations I've run across both as the child in the situation, and the adult in others.

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Mom's dilemna	samatha	10/24/11 07:05 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	SRS	10/26/11 07:39 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Anything4Love	10/27/11 12:44 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/27/11 03:18 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/27/11 04:42 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	BeckaLeigh	11/01/11 07:34 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 10:06 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	BeckaLeigh	11/01/11 11:27 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 11:49 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	BeckaLeigh	11/02/11 12:34 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/27/11 04:52 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	ssmom79	10/28/11 08:58 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/28/11 10:15 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/29/11 07:49 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/29/11 07:34 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	10/29/11 10:39 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/29/11 07:39 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	10/30/11 02:01 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 10:29 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	10/30/11 06:01 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 07:48 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 10:02 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 08:28 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 06:37 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	10/31/11 12:33 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	11/01/11 06:47 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 08:36 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/01/11 11:38 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	11/01/11 12:51 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/01/11 10:12 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 10:30 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/01/11 10:52 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 11:06 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/01/11 11:08 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 11:19 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/01/11 12:47 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 01:25 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	11/01/11 02:41 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 09:04 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	11/02/11 11:24 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 06:37 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 11:38 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	11/02/11 12:10 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	ssmom79	11/02/11 12:21 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 12:58 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	11/02/11 01:25 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 02:02 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 04:37 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 06:41 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 06:49 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 06:52 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 06:56 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 07:05 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 04:54 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 05:00 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 05:01 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 05:02 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 05:04 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 05:05 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 05:07 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/02/11 10:16 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 06:36 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 10:17 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	ssmom79	11/02/11 08:11 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 06:32 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	ssmom79	11/03/11 08:24 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	11/02/11 07:47 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/02/11 10:26 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Redlegg	11/02/11 08:48 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	gr8Dad	11/01/11 01:43 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 01:45 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 06:58 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 07:54 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 12:45 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 02:30 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 02:36 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	10/30/11 12:28 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	10/30/11 06:01 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	10/30/11 01:30 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 07:43 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 12:46 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	10/30/11 01:56 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 07:44 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 02:21 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 02:14 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	10/30/11 02:24 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 02:47 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 02:24 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 02:36 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	10/30/11 02:30 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	10/30/11 12:53 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 07:40 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	10/30/11 09:52 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 07:44 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/01/11 05:55 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/01/11 09:08 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/02/11 07:00 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 07:16 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/02/11 07:25 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 07:43 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 08:02 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 08:07 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 08:20 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 08:59 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	11/02/11 10:21 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 10:23 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 07:55 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 07:07 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/02/11 07:16 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 07:22 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 07:20 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/02/11 07:27 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/02/11 07:30 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	11/02/11 07:45 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	elliesmom	11/03/11 01:26 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	11/03/11 05:51 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	SweetLight	11/04/11 01:14 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 07:33 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/02/11 07:38 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/01/11 06:56 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	11/02/11 07:09 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Sherron	11/02/11 07:15 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/01/11 07:10 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	11/01/11 07:20 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	11/01/11 09:40 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 07:55 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	DedicatedDad	10/30/11 09:47 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	ssmom79	10/30/11 09:18 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/30/11 07:50 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 08:04 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	M5M5	10/30/11 05:59 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/30/11 06:36 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	10/30/11 05:17 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Goodmom	10/29/11 12:27 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	spinnerdegrassi	10/29/11 10:55 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	ssmom79	10/28/11 10:39 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	annieo	10/28/11 09:53 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	youngatheart	10/28/11 11:36 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Debi	10/24/11 10:01 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	Renny	10/24/11 11:33 PM
Re: Mom's dilemna	samatha	10/25/11 01:15 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	c_jane	10/25/11 08:49 AM
Re: Mom's dilemna	javajunkiee	10/24/11 07:32 PM

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