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Re: Mom's dilemna
      11/01/11 06:47 AM

[quote]What if not only your ex, but the judge disagreed with you? How would you have handled that? [/quote]

Given the fact that my ex has a short temper and had to complete an anger management course before he could even have overnights, that wasn't even a remote possibility.

If it was, it would have been a disaster for my youngest. And he would have ended up abusing her. He had already did some questionable stuff when we were together because he simply can't handle normal toddler behavior. He's much better with older kids who listen better than a 3 year old with a very strong will does. My going to the EOW parent would have been a disaster as well as her attachment to me was (and still is) very strong.

Had the judge forced 50/50 on my youngest, s/he would have done irrepairable damage to her. Some kids just don't do well with a 50/50. As I stated before, I live in a state that doesn't force 50/50. But goes with the best interest of the child. Which usually means keeping the status quo. In other words, if a parents was a SAHP, then that is who becomes primary. And that is a good thing for my kids.

I do think that in some cases, the status quo can work against what is in the children's best interest. But it did not in my case.

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