LexieBelle
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Re: Lost Textbook -- venting again
11/01/11 09:17 AM
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Yes, you misunderstood the point. My point was, and I admit it might not have been clear.. I don't post often any more and I typically get distracted by stuff every 5 seconds when I try to now lol soooo.....
anywho, my point was... I get her frustration. However, you do what you have to do for the benefit of the CHILD, regardless of making a point about the other parent. My point was, I may be slightly annoyed my ex didn't just take dd out to get a damn coat BUT, that doesn't mean I'm going to deny her to teach him a lesson. I'm going to go buy her a coat. It would have been NICE for him to do so. He knows it's a trauma to get her to do stuff she doesnt' want to (she does NOT NOT NOT want a winter coat) and it would have been nice for HIM to handle something for a change PARTICULARLY when she was WITH HIM it was FREEZING and it was something she NEEDED. Oh yeah, and it was something he WANTED her to have. But he wants ME to do it. So fine, she lived with being freezing, and she got the "you can't come back til your MOTHER does what I want her to do" and I'll go get her a damn coat.
I don't have to make everything into a federal case about what a jerk my ex is, that's my point. And I don't have to put my daughter in the middle of it. That's my point. In fact, my daughter didn't get any of her meds this weekend either. Given the season/weather, made an immediate difference in her sinus/allergy/asthma issues. I asked if she'd taken them.. she said "no". Then her commment was, and I quote "Daddy doesn't take as good care of me of you as you do... he just doesn't". I was taken aback by that, and it would have been SOOOO easy to say "You're right, he doesn't" or something catty.. but I took a breath and said "Honey, it's not a contest. Daddy loves you very much and takes care of you just fine." End of story. Does he in reality? Not in my opinion but it is what it is, and she doesn't need to know that. Gotta let go of the anger, hatred, judgment, etc. I have a pretty happy/healthy emotionally kid relative to divorce. But I also don't get into the petty nonsense cjane and her ex do. That was my point.
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