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Re: Mom's dilemna
      11/02/11 08:11 AM

Maybe you're just as blinded by your POV as I am by mine. He felt like a visitor in his child's life. His kids certainly felt as though they were visiting.

Here are a few things that changed for my husband after his ex asked for a divorce. You go from eating dinner with your children every night, to not being at dinner except every other Friday and Saturday. You go from bathing your kid every night, to someone else doing that in your place. You go from picking them up every day from daycare to not seeing them until Friday pickup at daycare. Those nights to go outside fishing with your son, reduced to what can fit in a weekend. The trips with extended family to places like the mountains or to Disney now must come with permission from a CP, where before, they could just go because each parent spent the same amount with the kids, so no one felt like they were losing. How about when the CP says, oh they can go on YOUR time...and YOUR time is reduced further so your kids can spend time with your family. To say it doesn't reduce a parent to being a visitor except by choice is not true. My husband would have loved to be able to keep doing all of the things he was used to doing. But how can you do that when your wife doesn't want you there, when she calls the police if you stop by to visit? You can't.

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