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Re: Alimony and a Yacht
      11/04/11 04:32 PM

This--> "When you are better financially and I move to a permanent address we can rearrange the custody. "

You need to really think this through. While I see your logic in having the kids stay put and him taking the house, just because you may agree now to 'rearrange' the custody later, doesn't mean it will happen. If he changes his mind you will have an uphill battle trying to regain custody. Check out the Custody and Visitation board on this site and you'll find any number of threads where the mother couldn't get custody after a status quo was set.

Example: You get settled and say "I'm ready to take the kids now" and he says No. You have to hire a lawyer and he hires one. His lawyer says He is the stable parent, He has the house, He has been the primary caregiver all this time. All of which is true. You will be painted as being a transient parent if you move more than once, every doctor appt you miss because of work will make you 'uninvolved'. If you're not contributing to the cost of raising the kids (whether there's an order to or not) he could call you a deadbeat. You may think he wouldn't do this, and I'd have to say if thats what you think, fine. But his daddy owns a business - would grandpa subsidize his legal costs if it came down to it? Would your stbx allow himself to be led by daddy because he didn't want to be disinherited???

Furthermore, IF the kids are stable and well-adjusted by that point why would you want to move them? A judge will wonder that too.

Again - ck the other threads on the Custody board and go back a couple of years. Heck post a thread there and ASK if anyone had issues like this. Don't make this decision without doing a worse case scenario evaluation.

I say ask for joint and set the schedule however is necessary. You're going to paint yourself into a corner if you agree to be the NCP.

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* Alimony and a Yacht Shanti 10/29/11 02:57 PM
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