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cpnebraska
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Re: Court today...almost missed it.

11/10/11 11:07 AM

[quote]I don't think the OP is looking for fair; just more money. If I'm wrong, I invite the OP to state their intentions.

I don't believe in CS increases with pay increases in most cases (there are exceptions), or where one betters themselves to increase their income. I also don't think CS should decrease in most cases where income decreases, unless the person loses their job because it becomes obsolete, they are older (50+) and the job can't be readily replaced.

Imagine as a CP if you went to college, increased your income by $30K, and had to send $9K of it your ex (an average increase with 2 kids, and paying 25%).

I doubt many CP's could even fathom the thought. [/quote]

I am being fair. I could go into all the details but that would take too much time. Then again my idea of fair and yours may be different.

My Ex sees his kids (by HIS choice) less than 24 hours in a month. Most months not at all. I won't say he doesn't love his kids but he doesn't understand how to put anyone before his wants.

I never would have asked for a CS review if he had been taking the kids. The $400 a month he was paying before doesn't cover alot for a 15 and 10 yr old. Have you seen them eat? 4 days a month can make a big difference in costs. I have those kids 24/7.
Ya know what I would like? I would like to see my EX be FAIR in raising the kids! How about he takes them to doctor appointments? Stays home when they are sick (not the 15yr old)? How about he invests his time and energy into the kids? How about he takes them and I get time to recharge? How about he takes the kids when I am out of town? No, He can't handle his and the SD he has. His words. He can't take time off work to run to doctors, or pick them up from school when they are sick. I do and I lose income from that. Do I complain?? Not usually no but when you say I'm not being FAIR because I think his dodging being served is his fault? He knew they were looking for him. He purposely dodged them. Why didn't he just send his paperwork back within the 30 days? ANd then why did he wait until the last minute to get a lawyer? I don't care about the lawyer - why? because I wasn't trying to scrw him thats why. I could have easily asked for more and gotten it. I chose to do the right thing and not rake him over the coals.

For my YS10 birthday do you know what his dad got for him 3 weeks late? 2 t shirts and a few of Ex's old comic books, not good ones, I was semi touched by the comic books because he was trying to create a bond. What did he get OS15? Nada. Not even a phone call. Last year OS got a phone call of EX yelling at him for not calling SM and telling her happy birthday. WHen did this take place? ON OS birthday. Never said happy birthday to him just yelled at him.

Ex isn't being FAIR in his PARENTING responsibilties. So your right, where I might have given him the tax rights, I won't because he barely contributes in any other way.

I would trade the increased CS for him being involved with his kids in a heartbeat. Those boys miss their dad but I can't change him. I can make sure they have opportunities to keep busy though.

So say what you want. I know you don't understand nor do you know the entire story so you can't understand.

G8dad - I'm sorry you were raked over the coals but my story is so very different.

Good mom - thanks, you said things I would've had I been on here.

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Having one kid makes you a parent, two makes you a referee!

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Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/09/11 08:32 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	LeAnne	11/09/11 12:21 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/09/11 01:09 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/09/11 01:51 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/09/11 03:05 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/09/11 05:45 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Goodmom	11/09/11 06:40 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/09/11 06:52 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Goodmom	11/09/11 08:17 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/09/11 08:32 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/10/11 10:02 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 10:37 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/10/11 11:07 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/10/11 12:54 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 01:29 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/10/11 01:25 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/10/11 01:38 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/10/11 01:59 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/10/11 02:46 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Goodmom	11/10/11 05:25 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/10/11 05:34 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 09:09 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Goodmom	11/10/11 07:54 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/10/11 02:44 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 02:00 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/10/11 02:12 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/10/11 02:47 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 02:07 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 02:09 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 04:37 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 04:50 PM
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Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 09:14 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	ssmom79	11/11/11 10:23 AM
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Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 09:16 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 09:15 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 09:22 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/10/11 09:28 PM
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Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 09:53 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/10/11 09:59 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it. DELETED	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 10:14 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 10:33 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it. DELETED	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 10:37 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 10:49 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 10:40 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it. DELETED	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 10:51 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 10:56 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/11/11 06:41 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/11/11 09:23 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 09:26 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/11/11 09:45 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/11/11 09:53 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	ssmom79	11/11/11 10:17 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 10:01 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/11/11 09:30 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 09:37 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 09:43 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 09:45 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/11/11 07:00 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/11/11 09:00 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 09:13 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/11/11 10:50 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/11/11 10:55 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/11/11 11:11 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 11:14 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/11/11 11:28 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	RJ1	11/11/11 07:26 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/11/11 10:28 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it. DELETED	DedicatedDad	11/11/11 10:58 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/11/11 01:01 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 11:06 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Cassie23	11/11/11 10:58 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/11/11 09:23 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 11:13 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/10/11 09:46 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 09:44 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it. DELETED	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 10:05 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 10:08 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	youngatheart	11/10/11 10:11 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 08:56 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 08:58 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 09:00 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 09:06 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 09:11 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Redlegg	11/10/11 08:56 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Sherron	11/10/11 01:47 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 01:50 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	cpnebraska	11/10/11 02:01 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 02:09 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	DedicatedDad	11/10/11 11:23 AM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	Goodmom	11/09/11 08:36 PM
Re: Court today...almost missed it.	gr8Dad	11/09/11 08:44 PM

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