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LexieBelle
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Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent)
      11/15/11 11:14 AM

[quote]"a less then should be involved parent is better then none "

I don't think this is true for all situations. [/quote]

------------>> Not for all, but for the majority it is I think. SRS's ex isn't abusive, or whatever, he's just selfish and his kids aren't his first priority. Surprise surprise, neither was his marriage. Doesn't mean he's still not A father nor that he shouldn't have any interaction. Nor does it mean that his kids don't benefit by at least SOME interaction.

I think if one manages EXPECTATIONS of the child(ren) it makes a HUGE difference. Like, for me, there's NO question that my ex totally deprioritizes OUR child. Absolutely, 1000% zero doubt at all. It's been reinforced, yet AGAIN, this Christmas, HIS holiday. Other child won't be there, by his allowing her not to be, guess who else won't be there? That's right, he's not taking ours because he won't have the other. God forbid he do that ;) Now, it could a dramatic/traumatic thing for our child OR it could just be a really non-event in her world. And that's what will happen, it'll be a non-event, blip on the radar, no tears, hurt feelings, whatever.

I really think it's the PARENT(S) who make a big deal out of this stuff and kids are sponges, they pick it ALL up, particularly when they are young and particularly if they are the sensitive/emotional sort.

I have to say for what issues my child DOES (or did) have, divorce adjustment was not one of them. And that's mostly due to how I handle things. There's quite a few folks on here who, it's VERY clear by their attitudes, are probably doing more damage to their kids in a post-divorce situation than the supposedly "bad" parent. It's sad.

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* Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS 11/15/11 02:49 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/17/11 02:42 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 03:34 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/17/11 02:51 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Debi   11/15/11 09:37 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) frustrated_ex   11/15/11 08:09 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Tweeby   11/15/11 02:45 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/15/11 07:13 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) annieo   11/15/11 09:42 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 03:33 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/16/11 05:26 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Tweeby   11/16/11 08:24 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/17/11 02:13 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/17/11 02:39 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/17/11 03:38 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/17/11 04:10 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/17/11 05:06 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/17/11 06:54 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/17/11 09:06 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/18/11 08:16 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/18/11 12:51 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/18/11 01:12 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/18/11 01:17 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/18/11 01:47 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/18/11 06:15 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SweetLight   11/18/11 11:29 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Debi   11/19/11 05:44 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SweetLight   11/20/11 07:11 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Debi   11/20/11 11:08 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/20/11 01:48 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) annieo   11/20/11 02:53 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/20/11 05:45 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) M5M5   11/20/11 11:02 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SweetLight   11/20/11 11:26 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/21/11 05:33 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Tweeby   11/21/11 06:25 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/21/11 06:40 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) M5M5   11/21/11 06:52 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Tweeby   11/21/11 06:49 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 03:25 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) ssmom79   11/21/11 12:30 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) elliesmom   11/20/11 03:30 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 03:39 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 07:41 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) elliesmom   11/18/11 08:11 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 03:37 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/20/11 04:27 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/21/11 12:12 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/21/11 12:52 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/22/11 09:44 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 04:44 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) spinnerdegrassi   11/20/11 05:43 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/18/11 03:25 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) *DELETED* Sherron   11/18/11 04:21 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/18/11 04:42 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/18/11 04:46 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/18/11 05:49 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/18/11 03:10 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Anything4Love   11/18/11 02:10 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/18/11 06:09 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) RJ1   11/19/11 06:54 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/17/11 06:26 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Cassie23   11/17/11 08:58 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/17/11 04:10 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/16/11 08:47 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) DedicatedDad   11/16/11 11:08 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/16/11 08:12 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/15/11 09:45 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) annieo   11/15/11 10:34 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/15/11 10:51 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) annieo   11/15/11 05:30 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/15/11 11:14 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/20/11 03:31 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/20/11 09:49 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) spinnerdegrassi   11/20/11 10:19 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) SRS   11/21/11 06:15 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/15/11 11:23 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/15/11 11:38 AM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Runswithscissors   11/15/11 07:03 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) BeckaLeigh   11/15/11 01:41 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) M5M5   11/15/11 05:32 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) LexieBelle   11/15/11 03:00 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) BeckaLeigh   11/15/11 04:09 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) Sherron   11/15/11 01:04 PM
. * * Re: Oh boy! Dad is taking us to dinner. (vent) chaznsc   11/15/11 07:31 AM

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