Ok, so the divorce is immanent. No going back blah blah blah. Been together 6 years, married 4, have a 4 year old daughter. Been through thick and thin, PCS to a new base Oct 9th. He starts work around the 14th of Oct. Nov 13th in a druken stupor tells me he wants to leave me for his co worker. He's had sex with her ect, ect. The things he said to me Sunday are things he will never take back, and I will never forgive. He's unwilling to fix anything, told me that I cant fix anything because im not her. 2 days prior to all of this, we were looking at new Christmas trees, where we were going to put it ect. I havent even gotten all the unpacking done. I met with 3 big people from his shop yesterday, the process started at 2 pm, and I didnt get officially done until 930pm. They requested that my guns be locked in the armory due to a past suicide attempt he had 5 years ago. They asked me what I wanted. This.... Co worker has done this before to families, she cant keep her legs closed, got pregnant in Tech school, and has a 3 year old of her own. So I want blood, stripes, discharges, whatever I can get out of this. He is willing to give up his family, the things we've worked so hard for, his DAUGHTER, after knowing this.... Co worker for only 3ish weeks, I want repercussions. I told them to decide what to do, but I want her reprimanded just as much as him, because it takes two to tango. They decided to place a no contact order between he and I for 30 days, and to my relief they also placed one on him and ..... [i]her[/i] . Thank God for small favors. Yes I am going to leave, have TMO pack my things up and take me back to the cold tundra of ND so I can live with my mother as a single mother. Yay, totally looking forward to that... NOT. I talked with a JAG officer lawyer lady, she said that right now we're in limbo because we are not technically IL residents until we've been here for 6 months, because I was asking her about alimony. She wouldnt give me any advice. His higher ups I spoke with yesterday informed me that the JAG office would be very unwilling to help me, and to go to a civilian lawyer. So when I get back to ND, thats exactly what I plan to do. So any other tid bits/advice would be great for me getting the upper part of this very raw deal. I accept the fact that he no longer wants me. But what kills me is his lack of compassion for our daughter, his willingness to give everything (including her) up for this vile creature, not even worthy of being a human being.
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