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elliesmom
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Re: To answer your question Annieo...

12/04/11 11:47 AM

Having come in late in the game with a SK that was raised by wolves I will offer this suggestion. We worked with a counselor while doing this - which I highly recommend. And it was a 14yo boy, but here goes.

DH and I sat with the counselor and set up some very basic house rules. These were things that we just could NOT tolerate life with/without. For us it dealt with hygiene, sleep, and schoolwork.

On top of that we put together our "expectations" for member of our household - things like putting dishes away, etc. For us this was mainly a list of things that we wanted him to be (more) responsible for. We then ranked them in order of importance. This was all done without SS there. We then with the counselor discussed the house rules with SS. Each week we added an expectation we wanted to work on as he was successful with the rules and other ones. There were clear consequences written out for breaking a rule as well as the "reward" for success. Throughout all of this he had private time with the counselor to discuss how he felt about it (as well as other things - his separation and abandonment from his mom and family did not happen without consequence). And then DH would go with him so she could hear how WE thought it was going. It was never perfect, but he did learn alot about how to be a normal person who uses utensils to eat and helps out when needed around the house.

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To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/04/11 09:47 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	DedicatedDad	12/04/11 01:59 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/05/11 07:17 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	LexieBelle	12/04/11 02:26 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	DedicatedDad	12/04/11 03:17 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	LexieBelle	12/04/11 10:06 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Cassie23	12/05/11 06:32 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/05/11 07:28 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Miranda	12/05/11 07:50 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/05/11 08:45 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	elliesmom	12/05/11 09:37 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	SRS	12/05/11 02:02 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	M5M5	12/05/11 05:47 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	SRS	12/05/11 07:34 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	M5M5	12/06/11 04:05 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	gr8Dad	12/05/11 02:15 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	elliesmom	12/05/11 02:37 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	M5M5	12/05/11 05:50 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Sherron	12/05/11 02:20 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/05/11 02:46 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Sherron	12/05/11 02:50 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/05/11 02:55 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	SweetLight	12/05/11 09:52 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	M5M5	12/06/11 04:09 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	SRS	12/05/11 04:23 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/05/11 10:26 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Cassie23	12/05/11 09:32 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Spring	12/04/11 07:37 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Spring	12/04/11 07:55 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	DedicatedDad	12/04/11 09:20 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Spring	12/04/11 09:47 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	spinnerdegrassi	12/04/11 03:48 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	LexieBelle	12/04/11 11:09 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	elliesmom	12/04/11 11:47 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	lizk0114	12/04/11 12:20 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	c_jane	12/04/11 11:42 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Miranda	12/04/11 12:15 PM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	Tweeby	12/04/11 10:45 AM
Re: To answer your question Annieo...	spinnerdegrassi	12/04/11 09:57 AM

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