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Re: To answer your question Annieo...
12/05/11 09:52 PM
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“Honestly though, even without that concern, I feel like it is not my place to. I honestly would be upset if my kids SM spanked them. That is one of the lines I feel a SP should not go, honestly. I know some that do go there with their SKs but I just cannot.”
----->I also felt like it was not my place, or very wise. ;-) The discipline should be done by the biological parent. I cannot imagine the additional chaos that would have ensued had I even wanted to take on that role. No thanks! When my former stepdaughter insisted on misbehaving while in my care, my hands were tied as far as discipline goes, and her father was going to excuse the poor behavior? Then yes, she would be going to her brother’s soccer or karate practice to watch along with her Dad, rather than staying home with me. See #3 below & #7. ;-) I went to nearly every single extracurricular kid practice until I realized that was way too unreasonable, unrealistic, and way too Brady Bunch.
***Disclaimer*** No, I did not make-up or write "The Stepmother’s Bill Of Right’s", as was asked of me before when I posted this, lol. I just happen to agree with it, and it’s author, and can empathize with others in the same position.
Stepmother's Bill of Rights
1. I will be part of the decision-making process in my marriage and family at all times.
2. People outside the immediate family - including ex-wives, in-laws and adult children - cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.
3. I will not be responsible for the welfare of children for whom I can set no limits.
4. I must be consulted about which children will live with us, when they can visit and how long they will stay.
5. I will not be solely responsible for housework; chores will be distributed fairly.
6. I will be consulted regarding all family financial
7. Others may not violate my private space at home, nor take or use my possessions without my permission.
8. I will never be treated as an "outsider" in my own home.
9. My husband and stepchildren must treat me with respect.
10. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.
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