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bacall
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Re: Reflections and thanks

12/07/11 04:27 PM

Dear Laner,

First, congratulations to the man who you said "yes" to in August. He is the fortunate one. I am so very glad for your newfound happiness.

Second, I had to laugh about the "preachy" comment. I never mind being preached to by someone I think cares -- it is the "other preachers" that I have a difficult time listening to since their words are generally false.

Yes, unfortunately, I actually hope you are right on all counts. I am afraid, I've concluded after these oh, so long and many years. I guess my perceptions and judgments were so wrong in so many different areas (all involving people), that it isn't so much that I don't trust others; I simply don't have any faith left in my own judgments. Does that make any sense?

I also agree with you -- yes, some marriages I see are not what I would call "great, or even good," but I do have to admire people who stick to a commitment and try to make things work. I have too many children and I invested, well, really, pretty much my whole being, into what turned out to be quite the disaster. I don't know if you see your ex-husband; I see mine irregularly but a few times a year -- always at family events. We are complete and utter strangers. It is still more than surreal that you could be married to someone for over thirty years and feel that not only don't you know him now, but did you ever really? This acknowledgement is proof enough for me to realize that I must not be the sharpest blade in the shed!

I hope you are right that I have something to offer somebody. I can't say honestly that I personally feel that way right now. But, as you say, things can change.

Thanks so much for writing. It was very good to hear from you and I will take your kind words to heart!

Take care- bacall

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Subject	Posted by	Posted on
Reflections and thanks	bacall	12/07/11 09:14 AM
Re: Reflections and thanks	Laner	12/07/11 01:12 PM
Re: Reflections and thanks	bacall	12/07/11 04:27 PM
Re: Reflections and thanks	Laner	12/07/11 08:39 PM
Re: Reflections and thanks	bacall	12/14/11 08:07 AM
Re: Reflections and thanks	Laner	12/14/11 12:26 PM
Re: Reflections and thanks	onmyown_36	12/28/11 07:49 PM

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