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Typical overnights for under 2-year-old
      01/02/12 12:09 PM

I moved out with my 1 1/2 year old daughter 3 months ago and am preparing to file for divorce now (in California). Before moving out my husband spent very little time with our daughter. After we moved out he has seen her most days, averaging about 2 hours a day (more on weekends, less on weekdays). I have basically let him see her all the time he has requested. Yesterday I told him that I think we should file for divorce and he now wants her for overnights, and wants to take her out of state for 3-4 days. My personal opinion is that the consistency of her nights is really important at this young age, not to mention that he works from home starting early in the morning and doesn't have time for her then anyway. But I realize that it's not up to me to decide what is best. So my questions are...

1. What is typical custody arrangements for a girl under the age of two who has always been with Mom for her nights?
2. When do overnights with Dad usually start? Immediately?
3. At what age would a 50/50 arrangement tend to be put in effect? I've heard there will often be a graduated approach, but have no idea if that's over 1 year, or 10 years, or what.
4. Should Dad be allowed to take her across the country for about 3 days? That seems like it would be really scary for her.
5. In general, are the courts (and mediation) focused on what's best for the child, or on giving 50/50 regardless? I realize in many cases 50/50 may be what's best, but I don't always believe that's true from the child's perspective.

I really appreciate hearing your thoughts!

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* Typical overnights for under 2-year-old onmyown5 01/02/12 12:09 PM
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