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Debi
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old

01/03/12 09:34 PM

. What is typical custody arrangements for a girl under the age of two who has always been with Mom for her nights?
----> Why would it be different than any child. You say you moved out and are filing for divorce so it's not as if dad is a stranger and they need to build a relationship.
2. When do overnights with Dad usually start? Immediately?
------> It would be best if they do. The younger she is the LESS traumatic it will be not more.
3. At what age would a 50/50 arrangement tend to be put in effect? I've heard there will often be a graduated approach, but have no idea if that's over 1 year, or 10 years, or what.
----My x and I divorced when our youngest was 3. We had 50/50 from day one. I'm ot sure why it would be graduated. It seems that would be more confusing to a child than starting frmo the beginning.
4. Should Dad be allowed to take her across the country for about 3 days? That seems like it would be really scary for her.
--------> My guess would be it would be more scary for you. I took my daughter across the country (ok part way across) when she was 18mo. She did great. She didn't seem scard or out of sorts at all.
5. In general, are the courts (and mediation) focused on what's best for the child, or on giving 50/50 regardless? I realize in many cases 50/50 may be what's best, but I don't always believe that's true from the child's perspective.

---> Actually it's usually the parents (or one parent) that has an issue with 50/50 more so than the kids. Your child is young and she will adjust much more quickly than you do. A lot of parents make the mistake of thinking it's not best for the kids when it's really not what the parent wants. I have had 11 years of experience with 50/50 placement. My kids have thrived having a real relationship with both parents. No one is a "Disney" parent. No one spends the most time while the other is "visitor" in our kids lives. We both parent, disciplne, do homework and Dr appointments. It definitely means giving up some "control" but it's best for the kids to spend equal time with both parents providing one of them is not a drug addict or doing something to endanger the child.

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Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	onmyown5	01/02/12 12:09 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	c_jane	01/06/12 11:01 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Maury	01/06/12 04:04 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/06/12 03:56 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/06/12 03:48 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:17 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	annieo	01/06/12 11:24 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/06/12 12:27 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:41 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/06/12 12:46 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 01:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/06/12 01:25 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/06/12 10:23 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Debi	01/03/12 09:34 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/05/12 02:42 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/05/12 05:31 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Goodmom	01/04/12 08:13 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Debi	01/06/12 08:36 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/06/12 09:25 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/09/12 12:22 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	finz	01/16/12 11:27 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/17/12 07:05 PM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/19/12 03:51 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	dadinva	01/19/12 10:35 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/20/12 09:47 AM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/20/12 10:24 AM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/23/12 11:55 AM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/12/12 06:58 PM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/13/12 08:50 AM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/13/12 05:37 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 05:59 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/13/12 07:34 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/13/12 09:57 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/13/12 11:07 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/14/12 05:38 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/16/12 03:14 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	javajunkiee	01/15/12 06:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/14/12 09:51 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 03:13 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/13/12 10:20 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 11:07 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/13/12 02:09 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/13/12 11:46 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 02:08 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/13/12 11:30 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 03:22 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 04:21 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 06:28 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/12/12 11:01 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/12/12 06:16 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/12/12 05:50 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/12/12 04:50 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/12/12 11:56 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	SRS	01/12/12 11:13 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/11/12 07:05 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/11/12 07:23 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/11/12 09:02 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/11/12 11:51 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/11/12 09:28 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/11/12 09:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	SRS	01/09/12 06:39 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/09/12 12:47 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/04/12 09:11 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/04/12 10:04 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 09:17 AM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/06/12 07:57 AM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/05/12 08:08 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 08:39 PM
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/02/12 02:47 PM
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