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LexieBelle
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Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old

01/05/12 10:19 AM

I'm pretty confident in it. It wasn't just a matter of "like" or "not like", we are talking measurable/obvious long-term behavioral issues post-visit. None of the psychologists/counselors who have dealt with her have advocated additional time with dad.

And, for the record? She doesn't want to go the ONE night either. Her "norm" was NEVER to have overnights. She spent three years with NO overnights. And, 2 years later, she STILL would "like" NO overnights. So it's not like she's not made to do stuff she doesn't "like", if she were allowed her way, I would take her in the morning and pick her up at night and that would be that. That's her "ideal". She loves her dad.. don't get me wrong.. but she's not happy staying there. At all.

The extended visits.. I don't see her adjusting to.. at least not any time in the immediate future. And the damage done in the interim FORCING her to "adapt"? Would have been totally counterproductive.

speaking JUST for ME and MY child, THE best thing to ever happen was our relocation and the change to every other weekend. I have a TOTALLY different child today than I had 2 years ago. The every week was just a horror show. And he knows that. Even he will, when we do happen to do weeks back to back, be like "eeeee, how's she doing???" Like we did it in December.. and it went well BUT she is also now not going back for a month. And she's doing fantastic. Well, other than being sick. But she absolutely does best in one primary environment. Absolutely, no doubt, it's very well established. You may not like it or agree with it, but it is reality. All trying to force a 50/50 would have done was create a highly hostile and more oppositional child, who never had a chance to stabilize in ANY environment, before being shuffled back to the other. It is what it is.

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Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	onmyown5	01/02/12 12:09 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	c_jane	01/06/12 11:01 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Maury	01/06/12 04:04 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/06/12 03:56 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/06/12 03:48 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:17 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	annieo	01/06/12 11:24 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/06/12 12:27 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:41 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/06/12 12:46 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 01:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/06/12 01:25 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/06/12 10:23 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Debi	01/03/12 09:34 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/05/12 02:42 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/05/12 05:31 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Goodmom	01/04/12 08:13 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Debi	01/06/12 08:36 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/06/12 09:25 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/09/12 12:22 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	finz	01/16/12 11:27 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/17/12 07:05 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/19/12 03:45 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/19/12 03:51 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	dadinva	01/19/12 10:35 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/20/12 09:47 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	dadinva	01/20/12 10:00 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	dadinva	01/20/12 10:05 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Goodmom	01/20/12 05:43 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/20/12 10:24 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	dadinva	01/20/12 10:33 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/20/12 05:58 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/20/12 06:16 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	annieo	01/21/12 12:42 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/22/12 05:16 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Goodmom	01/23/12 05:14 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/23/12 11:22 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/23/12 11:55 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/23/12 12:33 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/22/12 05:38 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/20/12 10:00 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/09/12 12:02 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/10/12 11:57 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/10/12 12:02 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/11/12 04:32 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/11/12 05:02 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/11/12 09:40 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/12/12 10:28 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/12/12 03:07 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/12/12 04:34 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/12/12 06:58 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	RJ1	01/12/12 07:40 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/12/12 08:37 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/12/12 10:38 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 12:04 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 06:55 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	c_jane	01/13/12 08:10 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/13/12 08:40 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/13/12 08:50 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 09:57 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/13/12 05:37 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 05:59 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/13/12 07:34 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/13/12 09:57 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/13/12 11:07 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/14/12 05:38 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/16/12 03:14 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	javajunkiee	01/15/12 06:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/14/12 09:51 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 03:13 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/13/12 10:20 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 11:07 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	youngatheart	01/13/12 02:09 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/13/12 11:46 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 02:08 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/13/12 11:30 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 03:22 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/13/12 04:21 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/13/12 06:28 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/12/12 11:01 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/12/12 06:16 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	ssmom79	01/12/12 05:50 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/12/12 04:50 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/12/12 11:56 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	SRS	01/12/12 11:13 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/11/12 07:05 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/11/12 07:23 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Eve	01/11/12 09:02 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/11/12 11:51 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Sherron	01/11/12 09:28 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/11/12 09:20 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	SRS	01/09/12 06:39 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	M5M5	01/09/12 12:47 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/04/12 09:11 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/04/12 10:04 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 09:17 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/05/12 09:37 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 10:19 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/05/12 02:25 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 08:03 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/05/12 09:02 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 09:04 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/05/12 10:23 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/06/12 07:57 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/06/12 12:19 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/05/12 08:08 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 08:39 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/05/12 08:43 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 09:03 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	DedicatedDad	01/05/12 11:00 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	LexieBelle	01/05/12 02:23 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	SRS	01/02/12 05:48 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/02/12 02:47 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/02/12 06:19 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	SRS	01/02/12 06:47 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	Renny	01/02/12 08:35 PM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	CAFamilyLaw44	01/03/12 01:08 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	gr8Dad	01/03/12 06:28 AM
Re: Typical overnights for under 2-year-old	garnet	01/02/12 02:10 PM

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