Speaking for myself, since I fall into the "drunken One Night Stand" category AND as one of those drunken One Night Stands that DID result in a pregnancy, I can answer:
Well, first of all, when you're THAT drunk? You don't necessarily THINK. I surely didn't. Now, in my "defense" (and PLEASE before people get all over my shyt, I have it in QUOTES like, being facetious). I was 17. It was my first time. Having sex. so yes, I'm a big old statistic, all the way around. Drunken ONS, first time sex getting knocked up. Yup yup yup.
I was pretty uneducated, to be perfectly honest, about sex in general. Apparently I didn't pay attention in health class (which in my day was VERY vague.. I mean it was pretty much, when you get your period, here's how to use outdated sanitary supplies that you probably can't even buy in a store anymore).
I can tell you the EXACT date I got pregnant.. November 30th.. 1985. And my biggest memory of it? Was AFTER thinking.. that was IT?? That's what the fuss is over? Really? At least in my memory is was a pretty quick event and I'm not even the one who figured out I was pregnant, my mother did. I was just generally naive, inexperienced, and generally stupid :):)
it is what it is. Also for the record, my son has a half-brother. His biological father is married. So yup, I had a drunken ONS, as a minor, with a married man. Besides the whole "statutory rape" issue and not wanting to screw up his military retirement (officer at the sub base in Groton), I wasn't about to screw up a marriage either.
So I went the OPPOSITE route.. I wasn't about to be a BM from he11. I was just going to make the problem go away.. for everyone.
But I guess I'm a rarity.
I can see how these things "happen". I know my son's father felt pretty damn guilty afterwards. It was just a drunken, stupid mistake. Is what it is. He will NEVER know he has a son. Never ever. I thought that was best then, and I still believe that today.. 100%.
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